Do You Need to Vastly Improve Your Health, Sex, and Love Life?

The majority of us believe that our genes determine everything in the amount of testosterone we’re born with to how long we’ll live. But the new science of epigenetics demonstrates that we can take back control of our lives and really change how our genes work. That’s great news for everybody, but especially for men and their families.

According to Dr. Kenneth R. Pelletier, Clinical Professor of Medicine, UCSF School of Medicine, and author of the book Change Your Genes, Change Your Life, “Biology is no longer destiny. Our DNA does not rigidly determine our health and disorder prospects, as the previous generation of geneticists believed. According to the new science of epigenetics, our genes have been formed by what we believe and what we do.”

I have been working with men and their families for fifty years now and have found that lots of men are locked into old patterns of irritability, anger, anxiety, and depression and are not able to break free. A lot of women are affected by a man’s behaviour but do not understand how to help.

In my book, 12 Rules for Great Men, coming out in November, I provide the very up-to-date information available on how to help men and the families that love them. After reading the book, Dr. Pelletier said,”Jed’s book is unique in offering an in-depth comprehension of why men are the way they are and do the things they do. According to his fifty years of experience working with men and their families, he gives us all the resources for living fully, loving deeply, and making a positive difference in our own lives.”

I’ve known about Dr. Pelletier’s revolutionary work in the area since the 1970s when his book, Mind as Healer, Mind as Slayer was first published and ushered in the business of mind/body medicine. There have been natural connections between his work and mine ever since which are reflected in our new novels.

In Chapter 5 of Change Your Genes, Change Your Life, he discusses”Mind Matters” and how we could turn our genetic vulnerabilities by reducing stress. He correctly recognizes that our early-life traumas may have a lasting effect on our adult health. “Research indicates that undue strain or abuse experienced during a child’s development affects that young person’s epigenome into adulthood, changing their patterns of stress reaction and often leaving them with lifelong physical vulnerabilities or psychological disabilities that require therapy.”

My research recognizes that guys are normally forward-looking and action-oriented and frequently don’t recognize the effect of our ancient life’s traumas and consequently, we’re more vulnerable to everything from heart-disease and alcoholism to suicide and cancer.

In Rule #9 in the book, I explained my own refusal in addressing childhood wounds. It never occurred to me that my lifelong anger and depression and afterwards my two broken marriages had anything to do with my past. All that changed in 1998 when I reached out to a colleague, Dr. Charles Whitfield, since I could not seem to cure my depression regardless of the fact I was receiving excellent therapy and was taking drugs. He explained that the missing piece in my recovery may be addressing childhood injury. I heard about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and discovered they were quite common, such as experiencing divorce or parents who were alcoholic or depressed.

I discovered I had 4 ACEs, which is fantastic if you are playing poker. However, in the game of life four ACEs are extremely risky. The analysis found the following increased risk factors when you had 4 or more ACES compared to people who had none:

  • A two – to 4-fold increase in smoking, poor self-rated health, having over fifty sexual intercourse partners, and sexually transmitted disease.
  • The fantastic thing is that we aren’t the victims of our genes and we are not the victims of our early-life experiences. Neither do we need to settle for health care that’s impersonal and generic. In Chapter 6 of Change Your Life, Change Your Genes, Dr. Pelletier says,”Our challenge now is to jumpstart a transformation of health care for medication developed for a’standard’ individual to one that treats each person as unique.”

    There is emerging research in gender-specific medication. Marianne J. Legato M.D, Director of the Foundation for Gender-Specific Medicine states,”Everywhere we look, both genders are startlingly and suddenly different not only in their inner function but in how they experience illness.” For the first time, we could have health care designed especially for the special needs of males and females.

    I direct men, and the families that love them, through the next 12 practice, or principles, that assist men to live fully, love deeply, and make a positive difference in the world:

    • Rule #1: Combine a Men’s Group.
    • Rule #2: Break Free From the Man Box.
    • Rule #5: Recognize Your Anxiety and Stress Toward Women.
    • Rule #7: Undergo Meaningful Rites of Passage from Youth to Adulthood and out of Adulthood into Super Adulthood.
    • Rule #9: Understand and Heal Your Adverse Childhood Experiences and Male Attachment Disorders.
    • Rule #10: Heal Your Father Wound and Become the Father You’re Meant to Be.
    • Rule #11: Heal the Irritable Male Syndrome and Male-Type Depression.
    • Rule #12: Find Your Mission in Life and Do Your Part to Save Humanity.

    In the words of Bob Dylan, truly, the times they are a changing. We now have opportunities never before available. To find more information, you can contact Dr. Pelletier in and you may email me. We look forward to linking with you.

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