Before the movement there’s holding.
Before the stroke there is stillness.
Before the caress there’s quiet.
Among the most beautiful and effective’strokes’ of massage isn’t moving in any way.
In presence, profound presence.
Holding with your own heart.
Only resting your hands on the body.
With the aim of just being with you.
Holding brings you into your own body.
I frequently use it as a ground massage.
It works towards the middle, bringing you to your heart.
It is where the connection starts.
There’s healing in being held.
No movement, no anticipation, no anticipation.
There’s the stillness of being.
And in time, the brain will still as the body quietens.
Create a room, a sacred space, a sensuous space.
Choose the components carefully, with stability.
Breathe, a couple of deep breaths to become present.
Look into your partner’s eyes.
With each other, bring up your hands to your heart center’s in the center of your chest.
Bring your palms forward to touch.
Acknowledge each other with whatever words are suitable, possibly different for a lover and a customer.
Cushions for support where they require.
Sit beside thembetween their legs.
Maintain a comfortable position so that you don’t need to move in this holding.
Place one hand in their Heart Centre, lightly.
Put your other hand in their yoni or lingam, lightly.
Close your eyes.
Proceed inside of yourself, to your heart, to your mind.
Breathe that into your own hands.
Let your hands melt to the shapes, the curves of the body.
As soon as your mind wanders return to your breath.
Melt into them.
Emotions will come and go.
Tears can come and go.
Trembling can come and go.
When it is time, your body will let you know when it is time, when it is time, slowly, so slowly, take your hands off their body.
Remain on your heart.
Stay in love.
Holding is a profound mediation of intimacy.
Within this quiet we releasewe feel.
Within this heat we become.
A present from the giving, a gift in the getting.
Breathe your gratitude for the sharing.
Breathe the chance.
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