–I wanted to write some sort of x-number of reasons so far an Asperger’s man piece (a form of autism). The issue is, I have only dated one, I am still dating him, and as long as he suggests before all of the rings, earrings, and formal apparel in my Pinterest planks go out of fashion, I am done dating others. Moreover, let’s be fair, some guys are jerks, and it follows that some Aspie (Asperger’s) guys are likely jerks too. I can not categorically recommend all Aspie guys.  Just mine.  But he is taken! Having said that, I have a great idea about what behavioural traits led other women to pass on the man who sparked my fascination with ombre wedding dresses. I’m beyond thrilled that those girls are missing out on what I have, but I endure less ill will toward everyone else. I’m delighted to share 7 things which aren’t reasons to date a man with Asperger’s.1. He’s awkward. When he had been interested in me, before we began dating, he introduced me to an acquaintance as”Shannon, not Shannon, my girlfriend… only Shannon.” It was so damn endearing, I forgot to be ashamed. (A couple of days later, I was his girlfriend.)2. Never underestimate the creativity of an aspie man, especially one as smart as mine, obsessed with making a woman happy.3. In my experience, the degree of weirdness a individual accomplishes is often proportional to the quantity of wisdom and creativity they have. If you are not a little bit weird, you’re boring, and I really don’t like you.4. He is blunt.I don’t need to wonder how he feels about me. He is constitutionally incapable of lying, and even if he could lie, figuring out exactly what I would want to hear is not something his mind could manage.5. He appears unemotional. Not displaying emotions differs from not having them. I have dated men who cried during chic flicks who, nevertheless, managed to hurt me in inconceivable ways. Aspies, particularly adults on the spectrum, are loyal to a fault and demonstrate affection in practical ways.6. He can not take a hint. God forbid you should have a person in your life who will happily do whatever you ask of him since he is so damn happy to have a surefire means to demonstrate his affection for you (see above).7. He is a nerd. Nerds wish to learn about and understand whatever catches their attention. If you’re fortunate enough to catch the attention of a nerd, your likes and dislikes might just be the greatest subject and/or ability they aim to master. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.Granted, an As[ie person, like any other, will pose dangers. The things above can, respectively, equate to socially devastating, compulsive, disturbingly odd, rude, cold, obtuse, and interested only in matters that are not you. But occasionally higher stakes come with larger payoffs. 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A mutual friend introduced us, but it is not what you are thinking. We were not being put up on a date or in a romantic manner of any type. Our mutual friend, that I like to call the Notorious KSW, (like Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s alter ego, the Notorious RBG), set up us because Vivienne (not her real name) is about the spectrum and wanted to discuss blogging and social media as it pertained to autism.We set a time to meet, then I canceled last minute. Then we finally got together and when she entered the room, it seemed to illuminate with the radiance of her smile and her flowing red hair, I knew she was the person I was supposed to be fulfilling.I was also at once simultaneously happy it was her and nervous as hell because I’d be talking to this gorgeous woman and that I was expected to sound coherent.We talked for at least an hour, mostly about ourselves. In retrospect, It did feel more like a first date than a meeting about blogging and social media.I somehow managed to find out that she had been in an on-again-off-again thing with a man who lived close to her. In my head that took any opportunity, I needed to ask her out and threw it in the recycle bin. We had a few more of those meetings and every time that I wanted more and more that on-again-off-again stayed permanently off. We were over at her place working one day when we sat on the sofa and suddenly realized how close we were, yet neither of us decided to move away from another.Keeping in mind that we are both on the spectrum and we do not read one another’s signals very well, things have had a propensity to go slow, which is perfectly fine.The really cool thing is I can now state that I am not dating an incredible woman with different artistic talents who’s on the spectrum, who understands my service dog and that likes me for exactly who I am.How amazing is that? —RSVP for Emotional Wellness Calls  Connect the Mental Wellness FACEBOOK GROUP here. –If you think in the work we’re doing here at The Great Men Project and wish to join our calls on a regular basis, please join us as a Premium Member, now. All Premium Members get to See The Great Men Project with NO ADS.A $50 annual membership provides you an all-access pass. You can be a part of each telephone, group, class, and community.A $25 yearly membership provides you access to a single class, one Social Interest group, and our online communities. A $12 annual membership provides you access to our Friday calls with the publisher, our online community. [CDATA[ #rcp_user_login_wrap display: none;.rcp_form fieldset important; ]]> Register New Account Need more info? A whole list of advantages is here. ***Want to Donate to The Great Men Project? Do you need to discuss the way to have richer, more mindful, and enduring relationships? –Photo courtesy iStock.

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