He Doesn’t Want Me Our Child–And I Can’t Get Over Him

He does not even acknowledge our child and swears that I got pregnant on purpose to trap him?

You requested Coach Allana Pratt: I saw your response about assisting a lady stop fighting her with her ex-husband, what do you have for a girl who somehow seems to keep fighting with a guy she”technically” outdated (mostly just slept ), got knocked up by, and somehow fell in love with but he does not feel exactly like her? He does not even acknowledge our child and swears that I got pregnant on purpose to trap him? Whenever I attempt to close him out of my life, he pulls me back in, then we fight, then he blames me for his fiscal issues (since he has to pay child support).


Lordy Lordy! You have quite the circumstance! So first let us deal with your broken heart for him not loving you as you loved him. You are not going to have the ability to remain calm, centered and allowed about him if that wound remains open. Learn how to forgive, often to the hurt one indoors, be kind loving and appreciative of your worth and cut the chords remaining in reality {} not your spouse and you only hurt yourself by holding regret or bitterness.

Next, did you get pregnant to trap him? Tell the truth. If you did not, then who cares what he thinks? You’re not defined by other’s people’s opinions, if you don’t would like to live your life suffering giving your power away.

I’m concerned that your child’s dad wants nothing to do with him, you’ll need to clarify that in a neutral non judgmental way at some stage my love.

When it is not by gun point, then you are really CHOOSING to be pulled back in. Do not give away your power love, own it. Part of you enjoys the fight. Why? To see whether you will get back together? To continue to make him wrong? To make him wrong so that you don’t need to feel how much you are beating yourself up for the circumstance?

Tell the truth and get clear. Frankly will set your heart free. Then there is no need to push him away or be dragged back in. You are neutral, no more feeding off the play to conceal from feeling your feelings, letting them go and falling into the freedom in your heart that’s your birthright.

Be thankful for child support. I never got any. And now he is coming after me. Be thankful for your child, lots of people can’t become pregnant. Be thankful for learning to let go and make another phase of your life with your kid and one day, a noble man who honors the calm, based empowered woman you have become.

Terrific love, Allana xoxo

A version of the post was previously published on allanapratt.com and is republished here with permission from the author.


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