Beyond Pleasure


There is a fascinating idea in Conscious Sexuality that lets us look at sexuality differently and opens up a huge possibility.

It is about going beyond joy. For many people, sex is about pleasure, about climax. And I need to say that I am rather happy about that, so much of my job is helping you’ve got more pleasure, and so lots of my assignments are about pleasure.

But there is more, so much more.

There is a context for why sex is about pleasure–that is normally in the area of fascination, of love, of a connection of some description. And within this circumstance, we come together to experience pleasure.

What happens if we take pleasure out as a target?

It is going to be there anyway since our genitals are involved. And we’ve got all these remarkable nerves and pleasure centers which are stimulated anyway. But let us go to some place where there is more. And in this, in addition to dropping the objective of pleasure, perhaps we can drop the story and circumstance also.

What happens if gender became about energy, about exploring a few of the possibilities of sexual energy? About building that in the body to use for meditation, for creativity, for inspiration, etc..

We can learn how to direct the energy to certain places in the body that we may need it.
We can learn how to channel it into imagination.
We can use this to achieve altered states of consciousness, as a means to have a religious experience.

What happens if I want to concentrate on my heart through sexual activity, go deeply into that energy by breathing, by placing all my aim on that heart, and what is going on in the rest of my body is secondary? How about researching different sensations in my body, in my yoni, in my lingam?
How about using gender as a tool for self-inquiry, what will different experiences bring me up emotionally, what will they activate, and how do I heal these? How about these experiences being a part of dropping the labels and limitations that I might have accepted from others, or taken on myself?

What makes this interesting is that I believe we need to go deeply into joy first.

So a lot people struggle with aspects of enjoyment. So many women aren’t having orgasms, are having painful intercourse, aren’t able to let go, have suppressed their desire and their sexual passion.

So many guys have reaction and ejaculation issues, are not able to let go, have suppressed their sexual desire and sexual passion.

So lots of people, in a universe of incredible stress battle with libido problems, with familiarity, with being sexually accurate and participated.

We must go into joy first, heal these aspects of ourselves, express and explore them. We will need to understand who we are sexually.

We must also explore consciousness, know what holds us in patterns, the constraints we live with, the beliefs that keep us alive conditioned lives. Then we begin to bring these together, and in this open the doors to a world of experiences that express our sexuality in a different manner.

We do not stop having pleasure.
We do not stop going deeper into joy, since there’s so much that’s beautiful and strong in these experiences.
We expand.
We enlarge our hearts, our minds, our bodies, our energy.

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