What’s Become Of Us?

There’s something which I’ve been hearing so much lately in my job.

‘I can not tell him that, it is going to hurt his self.’

‘If I say he’s going to tell me to not tell him what to do.’
Is that what our sexual voice is now, us guys?

‘I need to discover a way to say it that will not upset him, and I must wait for the ideal time.’
Is that what our psychological voice is now, is guys?

The majority of the men and women who come to the workshops and retreats are girls.

What’s become of us guys?

Is that a space too full of fear?

And what exactly are we afraid ofbeing vulnerable, being disclosed, not knowing enough, being emotional, not understanding how to love, not being able to be romantic, being too proud, being too closed, not understanding how to be different, do different?
What’s the power, the unbelievable power we have contributed for this fear, to this vulnerability, to this willingness, our partners can’t tell us much without us being hurt, retreating, shutting down?

Do not we see how much they want to give us pleasure, how much they would like us to learn how to pleasure them?

Do not we see just how much love they have for us, and how much they are open to out of us?
Do not we see just how much they need to heal, to learn, to grow, to link, and just how much they would like us to do the same?

And we sit at the panic, at the shut-down, shut-off space, where what we have to provide is withdrawal, anger, frustration, disconnect and’Do not tell me what to do, do not tell me the way to touch you, how to kiss you, how to…’

Do not we see how she would love to worship us, love us?

And just how much she longs for that from us?

Do not we see how open her heart could be, and how much she wants to feel ours?

Do not we see just how much she’d love to research and experience?

It is so interesting when you consider the Neo-Tantric groups, the Conscious Sexuality pages, just how much there is for women, about women, about female sexuality, feminine sensuality, feminine power. It’s beautiful!

And it is time there was for us.
It is time we stepped out and up, us guys.
It is time we made more spaces for us to talk about, to speak, to link, to heal, to learn, to research.


I had a fascinating insight following a Biodanza Vivencia a little while ago. I was walking out behind two girls, and the way that they shared, not so much what, how, brought me to determine how significant the sisterhood is, how much support there is in how girls of consciousness are with each other.

And it brings me to ask, what about us, where’s the brotherhood?

The brotherhood of the center.

The brotherhood that lets us feel the strength of a man’s arms holding us{} us.

The brotherhood that lets us be seen by the eyes of a person.

It’s time.
Time for us to perform our job.
It is time.

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For example:”I am tired and we can not catch up tonight.” , but then she had been seen out — hitting the city. When is it normal to expect the truth or is it normal people aren’t 100% honest in relationships.

A: Not that I am aware of! I guess there are times in life where the small white lie is for the best good of all, but maybe not here. To begin with, a few things might be going on: 1) She is lacking the self-esteem to look you in the eye and tell you the facts or perhaps write to you and tell you the facts. There’s some level of absence of self-esteem or lack of communication capability to understand that telling the truth actually builds relationship, trust, and intimacy. That’s her work to perform. 2) Or it’s extremely possible that previously she said”Hey, I wish to go out with my friends tonight.” And also you mad her feel really guilty, so now she is lying about it. I don’t know what happening but I am saying that could be, that you’re not safe to tell the truth to without becoming upset, which makes her feel guilty, or blowing up so she does not tell you the truth anymore.

In general, it seems like you guys do not have a definite deal, a definite arrangement, a clear communication about how you’re going to spend some time with your friends and each other. Lay out how your relationship will look so it can function. This conversation should take place from the get-go so that these sort of misunderstandings don’t occur and damage your heart. It is really great at the close of each week to check-in and find out how you can love that person more, improve the connection, and/or comprehend that which you might not be knowing clearly. It is like a recap of this week so that there is no elephants in the living area and you sip every thing from the bud and you get nearer and trust each other more over the months and weeks you’re together. So that would be my recommendation.

How can I assist you? Proceed to gethertosayyes.com — which is my free report and video series for guys, where it is going to encourage you on the way to be based — not blaming, not judgmental of self or other, and have this conversation with her. It will help you there and at many different ways to be a noble badass.

Ladies, if this is something you do — kind of tell white lies, it is really quite emasculating to the gentlemen. You, on your confidence and saying on your female,”It would make me so happy if I could go out with my girlfriends tonight. I don’t want you to believe I do not want to be with you; however, whenever I go out together I’m even more grateful for you.” That’s the sort of communication he desires. I have this superb DVD called Radiance. You’ll find it by visiting allanapratt.com/shop. I think it would be really great for a person who’s having trouble speaking their truth and asking for what they need. To go through that 6-week program — it has got interviews and dance videos — it’s actually comprehensive — about 9 hours of instruction, where you’re going to go through each and every coating, come HOME, feel secure, approved of, and attached to yourself on the inside so you don’t require an outside circumstance to be sufficient. You only have to ask for what you want and say the truth, and even if they don’t enjoy it, you’re still able to stay focused, connected to yourself, happy with yourself. So if you’re a lady, I believe this would very valuable in this specific situation.

Thank you for your queries and till next time, I love you so much!

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4 Tips for Men in Bed

Any woman has the ability to satisfy their partner and have a healthy sexual life involving intercourse on a regular basis to satisfy their needs and that of their partner. People who are more open about their sexuality tend to experience sex naturally and more frequently.

Below are four tips that will go a long way in helping you improve your sex life and have sex regularly with your boyfriend.

  1. Anticipating the moment

Anticipation has been shown to be very powerful over your psyche. It will force you to think about sex and make you start anticipating for that moment. There is sexual tension building this process, and this will get both of you excited and look forward to it.

There are different options when it comes to creating anticipation, but the most common is doing it over the phone using text. Send hints to your partner, and if you are close and trust each other, you can go the extra mile of sending them a sexy picture of you.

Another option is directly implying it or sending them private hints when you are both out with your friends. There will be more electricity and intensity when there are people around. You can touch him beneath the table using your leg or hand, then whispering dirty words to their ear. Perhaps you could suggest using the interesting “devices” at LTC, or suggest light roleplay.

Depending on how close you are or personality, you can leave them feeling wanted or aroused anywhere, anytime, and in many ways. Your main goal with this process is going for it.

If you are shy, you might have a harder time creating anticipation, but you will start getting used to it once you start and you will be able to see the benefits. You will start feeling more comfortable with different techniques. Visual techniques work best for men.

  1. Creating some visual effects

There are some coy girl sexual hints and signs that can come in handy when it comes to anticipation. Some of them include biting the lower lip, looking deep into their eyes, leaning towards them so they can have a better view of your low cut neck.

There are some that are really sexual and will most likely get them very excited. Your imagination will go a long way in helping you with this process. Some great examples include; slowly and provocatively undressing, giving them a striptease show, caressing and rubbing your breasts, and even masturbating in front of them.

While this will not work the same way for your situation, every guy is usually turned on when they see their partner touching herself.

A man will also like seeing you pleasuring them. You should let your partner see the action during foreplay, blow job, and intercourse.

  1. Getting Vocal

You can ask your partner to touch you or pleasure you in certain ways. This can at first seem dull and too frank, but they are going to be delighted to do what you want, especially if you guide them through or give them details.

Whispering close to their ear will help in heating up the atmosphere. When whispering close to their ear, make sure they can feel the breath and moisture from your mouth. This can be even better if there is dirty talk. This is very effective when used as an anticipator.

  1. Getting flirty and touchy

There are some subtle ways you can take when building sexual tension. Some of the things you can do are to caress the neck/ inside their arm/ palm using a finger in a back and forth movement, sit on their lap, slightly fuss your butt, stick your hand into their trouser into their front pocket like you want to grab the phone/keys, squeeze against them in a sensual manner, etc.

When doing the above gestures, always make sure they come with a suggestive look to their eyes and smile. These can also be great anticipators when you are in public.

If you want to try something that will have immediate effects, try out escalating to physical contact when you are having a conversation or watching the movie. Doing this out of the blue can be very effective.

Just start at the back of their neck then run your hands down their shoulder, slide over their chest. You fingers should then gently flow down their belly, and by the time you reach their dick, it will already be hard. Another option is setting a massage session then escalating to sensual touch.

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