84 Questions to Ask on a First Date

Conversation starters and thought provoking questions to create real connection and help you in your search for true love.

Modern day dating is catchy. Maybe, more of a challenge now than ever in history.

Why, with so many relationship programs making it easier to meet people, has it become increasingly hard?

I feel that since it has become very easy to find, talk to, and meet up with somebody, there’s minimal danger involved and therefore less attempt to create real relationship.

You meet up with somebody to make small talk for a couple of hours hoping to convince them that you’re a fascinating, charming individual. Secretly, you’re hoping to discover exactly the same about them.

I’ve committed my life to helping women create more self-love and confidence, which is vitally important in dating.

Below is a list of 84 conversation and thought provoking questions to create real connection and help you in your search for true love.

Now get out there and find your soulmate!

  • What do you do, and how long are you doing it?
  • Where are you from originally?
  • Where did you go to college?
  • That has been the biggest influence on your life?
  • What is your favourite place in the whole world?
  • What actually makes you laugh?
  • Are there any foods you absolutely despise?
  • What is your favourite movie of all time?
  • What is your favourite book of all time?
  • What is your biggest goal right now?
  • What is your favourite way to spend a weekend?
  • What were you like as a child?
  • What should I know about you that I’d never think to ask about?
  • What do you like to do if you are not working?
  • What is your favorite TV show at the moment?
  • Which sort of music do you enjoy?
  • Have you traveled anywhere really cool lately?
  • What’s your absolute favourite food?
  • Who is your biggest role model?
  • What is your biggest pet peeve?
  • Would you like tea or coffee?
  • Do you have any siblings?
  • In case you won the lottery, what’s the first thing you would do with the money?
  • Is there anywhere else you’d really like to live, besides here?
  • What is on your bucket listing?
  • Do you like cooking?
  • What is your favourite thing about your job?
  • What is your least favourite thing about your job?
  • Do you have a busy week coming up?
  • What combination of toppings makes your perfect pizza?
  • Do you drink?
  • Based on the above, what’s your signature drink?
  • What’s the most thoughtful gift you have ever received?
  • Does your family still reside in your hometown?
  • If you could be any person for a day, who would it be?
  • What is something you’ve been really proud of lately?
  • What is something you’ve always wanted to try?
  • What do you enjoy about relationship?
  • What’s your least favourite thing about dating?
  • What is something you are bad at?
  • Who in your family are you closest to?
  • What is your favorite holiday?
  • What is one of your favorite childhood memories?
  • What is your favourite article of clothing that you own?
  • What’s something you’re financially saving up for?
  • What is a New Year’s resolution you want to stick to?
  • What’s a job which you would never do?
  • What’s your complete dream job?
  • Do you believe yourself spontaneous, or a planner?
  • What is the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
  • Are you a big sports fan?
  • Who is your favourite sports team?
  • What quality for you is an automatic”no way” when chasing someone in a relationship?
  • What is the best single piece of advice you have ever received?
  • What do you want your 20 year old self could have understood?
  • If you could travel back and reside in any time period, when could it be?
  • What’s been your greatest achievement thus far?
  • What’s a tradition your family had when you were a child?
  • What do you enjoy most about where you live?
  • What was the worst job you’ve ever had?
  • When you’re a child, what did you expect to do when you grew up?
  • What’s one skill you want you may be better at?
  • Have you got a huge group of friends?
  • What is your favourite band?
  • If you could contribute to some charity, which charity would it be and why?
  • In one word, how would you describe yourself?
  • What do you look for in a spouse?
  • What do you find most attractive in a possible partner?
  • If you could be any animal, which animal would you be?
  • If you’re stuck on a deserted island, who would you choose to have with you?
  • If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what could it be?
  • What does your dream house look like?
  • What is an ideal day for you?
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

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10 Things Girls Want from the Men They Date

Another day, I was listening to some girlfriend her frustration on the phone about the most recent man she had been dating and how he inexplicably seemed to fall off the planet.

So it got me thinking, What is it that I hear, again and again, that women really want from guys they’re dating?

This post was inspired by the trials and tribulations of my girlfriends, my customers and myself.

While my relationship life has come to an end with my current marriage, a number of my own dating disappointments feel as though they just happened yesterday. And I hear countless stories from girls all around the world who write to me.

What I have noticed is that there are a number of definite underlying themes that just appear to drive us women nuts!

For the guys out there, I wanted to share these lessons with you.

Some may seem fairly obvious, and some you may downright disagree with, but in any event, they’re real stories from real women about their greatest dating desires and frustrations.

1. If you say you are going to call, please, just call.

This is just basic respect. If you say you are going to call, call. We have lives too, but if you inform us you will call us, chances are we are excited about that. When you don’t wind up calling it shows that you are flaky or you just don’t care.

A friend of mine was beginning to see a man she had been dating pulling away. He said he would call to speak, but never did. I understand some words are tough to say, but we’d rather know the truth than never understand in any respect.

2. Act interested, but not too interested.

When out on a date, dialog has to be a two-way road. So, show us you are interested! There’s nothing more boring than a man who only talks about himself. Be certain you ask us questions and be interested in what we have to say. I have a buddy who does gorgeous ink art, and if she excitedly showed the guy she was dating, he just responded with,”Is that pencil?” Come on! Be interested in our lives and what we do, but not on the top, which may come off as overly excited.

3. Chivalry isn’t dead.

OK, I understand that we are in the 21st century, and I am absolutely an advocate for equality, but I refuse to believe that chivalry is dead. 1 thing my husband always does is hold the car door open for me. He did so when we were dating and keeps the tradition alive now. It is such a small and simple action, but chivalry is a massive turn on. This made him stand out to me at the beginning. So, open the door, buy us flowers, woo us over just a little!

4. Offer to cover the first date.

This plays on the previous tip. I know some girls might argue with me over this and do not get me wrong, I am fine with chipping in when out on a date.

I have dated guys in the past who wanted to get more serious, but I always remembered when they had not offered to cover our first date. Plus, there are a lot of fantastic date ideas that cost little to no money in any way.

5. If you are just not that into us, OK, but please do not suddenly get”too busy”

And vice-versa. And that is OK. But please do not play games. Despite the fact that it’s frightening, the most manly and respectful thing you can possibly do is be honest with us.

I have girlfriends that keep making excuses for a man who’s blowing them off because he’s suddenly”really active.” They wish to believe that he really just does have a great deal going on at the moment, which explains why he’s stopped calling. But we both know better. We make time in our lives for something which is a priority. Just be straight up in the event that you don’t wish to see us.

6. Make the plans and adhere to them.

Nothing compels women crazier than dating a man who’s a complete flake. And believe me, I have dated some of them. Women love a guy who can make a plan and stick with it. In case you’ve got commitment-phobia about making plans beforehand or adhering to something, then we are going to question whether you’re able to make a commitment to us whatsoever. Naturally, things can develop but show us that you’ve got follow-through. Please do not mistake this as taking the fun and spontaneity out of dating, because that is what it is all about.

7. Take initiative.

Women are attracted to a guy who will show some leadership. Personally, I really like it when a guy takes the lead, particularly during the dating period. Whether that is setting up the date and choosing a place for dinner, surprising us with flowers or leaning in for that first kiss, show us you are somebody with a little initiative.

8. Put some effort into the way you dress, we love that!

I’m not saying you must get all dressed up, actually, sometimes that shows you are trying a little”too” hard. Plus, plenty of women like a man who can both dress nicely but also can be somewhat rugged. That’s just taste. But if you are going to have a woman out, especially if it’s someone you are into, put a little effort into your appearance.

9. Do not call at two a.m.

Every girl, and man for that matter, probably has a story about dating someone who only texts or calls them to”hang out” at the middle of the night. If you could possibly see the relationship going somewhere down the street then this trick is straightforward. When it’s the start phase of a connection and you are out late with your pals, you are better off going home to bed than phoning us at two a.m.

Hold off to establish a suitable date at a suitable time.

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I sincerely apologize if it looks like I’m being overly harsh on the guys out there! That’s not the intention, so this last tip is a bit more positive than the rest. I know that men have a difficult time in the dating arena, too. All of us do. And often, men require a dose of self-love just as much as girls.

Regardless of who you are, what you look like or what you do, just be confident in that. Nothing is sexier than a guy who knows who he is and does not make any excuses for this.

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Some may seem obvious, and some you may downright disagree with, but here is what real women say about their greatest dating desires and frustrations.

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Hacks for Feeling Better About Relationship

Transparency, trust, vulnerability, uncomfortable and scary are merely a few of the things which make love (and lifestyle ) grand! 

If you would like a better attitude and a greater degree of satisfaction pick it! 

Talk to yourself!  Stop the negative self talk like”I am not good enough,” I am too old/ obese /  busy/ etc.”Rather make it a habit to search for the good rather than the bad in yourself, in others and in every circumstance!

Ask yourself, what’s the worst thing that could happen? By imagining negative and unlikely outcomes, you understand you will be fine and can handle a great deal more than you understand. You may even crack up yourself by imagining ridiculously funny and improbable outcomes.

Recognize and celebrate your little wins! 

When coping with unpleasant tasks, start looking for the things which are beneficial and concentrate on that.

Keep talking to yourself… my favorite questions to ask myself are “why not?” ; “is this worth it?” ; and my favorite which is the question which helped me find the love I have now is,”if you do not do so, will you regret it?”

Tell people exactly what you want. People today want to give you exactly what you want, but they’re not mind readers.

You do not know anybody else’s story.

  • Another person is not perfect, and neither are you.
  • Transparency, trust, vulnerability, uncomfortable and frightening are merely a few of the things which make love (and lifestyle ) grand! 
  • Should you slip into old patterns, grab yourself with no judgement, and make better decisions. 
  • Everyone just wants to be heard and seen. 

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Ferris Bueller Dating


Do you recall the film Ferris Bueller’s Day Off?

It was so great when Ferris went to Cameron’s home and simply said,”I believe now we are going to have a day off.” They stole Cameron’s dad’s car and spent the afternoon driving like maniacs through Chicago and having an unbelievable time.

Have you ever been on a Ferris Bueller date? Rather than planning your date so precisely — instead of saying,”well, we will need to meet for dinner at 8:00 and then have a drink at 9:30 and then later…” — no! Be spontaneous!

Have a Ferris Bueller date. Go out and have a purely spontaneous and enjoyable day. Start off with something like taking a drive to the country. Select a random exit to get off — any depart — and out of that depart locate the Main Street, locate a trendy restaurant to eat, and find some cool shops. Then get back in the car and on the interstate and get it done again! Choose another random exit.

If you are in a town, walk around town, and if your date says’left’ or’right’ go down another block. You’ll find various shops, cafes — whatever it may be.

If you live out in the country, you can do the exact same exact thing. Go for a drive, get off in a random exit and explore a new city.

The main thing is to get a Ferris Bueller date — where you just go and get lost with one another and have a fantastic time. Do this rather than getting everything so rigid and intended, and instead of being so uptight.

Rather than worrying about what to do and when to do it, why not just be spontaneous?

Can you ever go to rest stops and people see? You can imagine where all the folks are going to and coming from. I used to love doing this on a date. We would sit there and make these back-stories for these families and other travelers.

Another interesting thing to do would be to go and watch airplanes take off, and only guess where they’re heading. You will never really know — but who cares? That is what is fun. Or go to the airport and watch everyone stress outside for an hour and a half.

There are a number of fun things to do.

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Go out and have a purely spontaneous and enjoyable day.

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When Can I Tell Them I’ve a Kid?

I love this woman I just started dating but I do not want to frighten her off.


Q: How do you discover the ideal time when seeing someone new to mention that you have a kid? I love this woman I just started dating but I do not want to frighten her off.

Granted, they won’t satisfy my kid for what might feel like a life but I’d rather start off knowing that this individual sees my kid as a strength, not a weakness, as a bonus, not bags.

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The Unspoken Rules of a 1 Night Stand

Before Tinder, 1 night stands were far more challenging. But the fantastic world of online dating changed all that. 1 night stands are far more accessible and far more common than they used to be.

You still need to be charming enough to write a swipe-rightable profile and string a few sentences together in conversation, but in case you’re able to skip that very low barrier of entry, you will be on the train to one-night-stand town.  But, as soon as you arrive, there are a number of unspoken rules that any decent human being must abide by.  Make your expectations clear

While we might not always know that we are headed for a 1 night stand before it occurs, you can be upfront about your intentions in the get-go. If you know you are only searching for something casual, just say so. This way you can avoid hurt feelings or feelings of things moving farther.

Message them before you meet up, or if you chance to meet in person (but what are the odds of that? What year is that?) mention something before things go too far. They need to be able to determine if it is worth their time and energy to pursue something casual with you. If they’re looking for something more serious and everything you want is a fast fling, they may leave the interaction atmosphere used. It’s essential to be honest.

Say something like:

You look like a really cool person, and you are super cute (which is a bonus). But I need to be upfront and let you know that I am not currently looking for anything serious. If you are still interested in going further, that is amazing. Otherwise, I completely understand!

It’s always great to be on the same page. This way, everyone understands what their expectations should be moving in, and it is more probable that everyone will be fulfilled another day (emotionally, in least!) .

Bring the required tools.

Make such as the Boy Scouts and”always be ready.”  You don’t need to bring a survival kit, but there are some things that you should always have available when searching for a 1 night stand.

1. Protection

Don’t expect your hookup will have security, always bring your own. You don’t need to be stuck in the heat of the moment and want to stop because neither of you came prepared.

Butif you happen to forget, bear in mind that many pub bathrooms are equipped with machines, or you could stop by the neighborhood corner shop for emergency supplies. Make it part of the experience!

2. Money

Do not be caught without enough cash to get home after the fun is done.
You may end up on the opposite side of town. You will need to be certain you’ve got bus or cab fare to make your way back home. Budget it into your day expenses so you are not stuck and frantically texting friends to come find you.

It is not fun to feel like you are trapped or reliant on somebody (particularly your date) for you home. Practice premeditated freedom and be financially ready to get home.

Post-Sex Tips

After everything is said and done, make sure you follow the proper etiquette so everybody feels comfortable.

1. Be ready to leave.

If the 1 night stand is at their place, you should be ready to gtfo, unless you are especially invited to stay the night (which means with no prompting or hinting from you). There is nothing wrong with staying the night and waking up with the following day. Perhaps you could even catch some brunch. But it must be what everybody involved wants.

Some people can not be comfortable with you sleep over. They might want to process the experience independently, or maybe they simply prefer to sleep alone. Regardless of the reason, you will need to give them their space.

Which is not to say that you will need to run out the door whenever the sexual activity is finished, but you need to stay aware of body language and verbal cues that it is time to leave. Then collect your items (all of them) and do not forget to thank them for hosting on the way out

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I am not going to lie. In the event that you had a fantastic time in your one night stand, but do not feel the need to see them, send them a polite text the next day stating that.

“It was nice meeting you yesterday. That having been said, I really do want to leave this in a first date and wish you nothing but the best! Very good luck with [add personal information about target they were working on]. Take care!”

I understand that the whole notion of a 1 night stand implies that you don’t find each other again, but it is still super classy to send a followup text thanking them for their time. And perhaps something you thought would be a 1 night stand turns out to be something more long term. If you wish to see them again, there is no harm in asking.

1 night stands can be a complete blast. Provided that you perform safe and respect the boundaries of your short term spouse, it can be an excellent experience. Even those that don’t go completely to plan give you more insight to what you’re searching for in the long run.

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Why Bother To Keep Dating?


Question: Have you ever had one of those moments in your life when you ask yourself, Why do I bother to keep dating? People keep telling me to hold my chin up, weather the storm, but I just don’t believe it anymore. How can I find a reason to keep going each day?
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1. First of all my love, I totally hear you. Don’t you just want to punch the people who tell you to hold your chin up? 🙂 Feeling disheartened is just one of the experiences it is to be human. There’s nothing wrong with you. And, if you are still breathing, in my opinion you’re still meant to be here. Xox

2. Many times when we’re feeling down it isn’t so much our energy as other people’s judgments slammed onto us, so say in your head, All that this is… Return to sender with a blessing. Do that a few times and see if you feel a little better.

3. The part of you that feels hopeless is the part of you that’s being invited to love. Can you love that part of you too? Can you be an allowance that this is how you feel today? When we are in resistance to a part of us, it gets stuck and grows. The more you let it be OK that this is a part of you too, you’ll start to feel that no matter what the universe has your back. No matter what the circumstance, you are a good person. This is the way of giving yourself a break, without giving up. It’s also an opportunity to take your attention away from out there, to inside you, and fall madly in love with you no matter what it looks like.

If you’re a gentleman a great way to be at peace with who you are all the way to the core, is to download my complimentary report and video series http://www.GetHerToSayYes.com.

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I’m so grateful you reached out with this question… Most people just hide and suffer. I too have felt exactly like you do… And the more I was kind patient and excepting of this part of me, the quicker things shifted. Keep in touch, as I’d love to know how you are. If it turns out to be something you just can’t shake on your own, that’s what I’m here for as your coach, it would be a privilege to help set you free.

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