You Can’t Control Your Environment, You May Just Control Your Reaction To It


You can not control your environment, you can only control your response to it. Let us talk about this now, and let us break it down into a few basic principles.

Say you are driving behind someone you absolutely can not stand. You do not know them, but you definitely can not stand them because they are driving far slower than the rate limit.

What should you do?

The issue is that man in front of you’ve got no idea why you are honking at him. He is just enjoying his afternoon.

He is thinking about the terrific assembly he just had, or about how he can not wait to get home so he could have sex with his wife. He can not figure out why there’s a maniac behind him honking his horn.

Here is the bottom line: You can not control him.

Say you’re wishing to approach a girl you see in the supermarket. A good deal of you get a lot on your head and think to yourself,”Oh man, I must say the perfect thing. If I say the perfect thing, she’s going to be turned on by me that she’ll want to go out with me. So I must think of the specific right thing to say so that I can find the response I want.”

The trouble with this sort of thinking is that you can not control her response. All you can do is control the way you’re in that circumstance.

If you walk over to her as a confident, strong man — a man who believes in himself and that he is as a man and who believes he’s a gift — then that’s all you do in this circumstance.

That is all you can control.

Say you’re heading out on a third date with a girl, and all you can think about is how badly you want to have sex with her that evening. So you plan out the whole night carefully.

You cook her dinner in your home. You open up a bottle of wine. You have even put an extra toothbrush in the toilet, since you’re so sure she will spend the night with you.

At the end of the night, you are making out with her. Things appear to be going perfectly, then she looks at you and says”I have to get home. I have an early meeting tomorrow, but let’s pick up this another night.”

Most men will immediately enter”I wish to control her response” mode. They’ll enter salesman manner, and try to sell her on staying over by saying something like”Please remain. I would like to be with you.”

The reality is, however, that you don’t understand what’s actually behind her leaving. She is in the midst of her time, and does not want her first time having sex with you to be while she is on her period.

She might, as she said, have an early meeting. She may be thinking that if she stays over, that she will be banging all night long.

What you will need to do in this time is look at her and say,”I completely get it. That’s what a real man does.

A true man will lead. She’ll respond and say,”Absolutely!” You have gotten her right in the moment she’s hottest for you and is feeling you the most.

So bear in mind that you can not control people’s reactions. You can, however, lead them down a path.

I would like you to remember the very first sentence of the blog the next time you feel you are not getting what you need in a circumstance. If you remain true to yourself, you will not just get what you want, but you’ll get it back tenfold.

This post was formerly published on Davidwygant.com and is republished here with permission from the author.

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Are you surrounded by poisonous food? Toxic men and women?

It occurrs to me, through my training, that many of you can’t get out of your way, not because you are not trying, but because your environment are detrimental to your own growth. To put it bluntly — your surroundings sucks!

Hello, Gregg here to weigh in on this important topic!

I am sorry, but when your roommate just pushes tacos down her throat while watching reality shows with her loser boyfriend daily, along with your Mother calls each afternoon wondering what you’re going to do with your life, then it is time for change. Misery loves company — and it is time to take a tough look at what’s contributing to your own distress.

Change comes from within, but to start making changes, it’s important to surround yourself with a support system that motivates you, not one that holds you back. Included in your new vision and goals, there must be a clause saying how you’re going to break free from the”bad business.” And I’m not referring to the 80’s ring.

Talk to your family and friends and get them on board with your targets.

You’ll be amazed, when you ask them, just how supportive they can be. If they are not, then lose these friends or (in the event of household ) limit your vulnerability to times when you’re able to handle their misery.

Reach out to new people

I discuss getting mentors in your life all the time. Go out, find, and stick to these people. These are the couple that share your passions, love to try new things, and have the capacity to shut down their electronic equipment for a second to discuss a genuine thought!

Clean out your surroundings

Unplug the Xbox, clean out the junk food in the cabinets and start Shaun T’s T25 CD work out, then watch your endorphins dance following this gigantic calorie-killing workout!

Have your kindle or IPad billed and beside your favorite chair, loaded with my relationship books! Set up an area out so that you can get out there during pleasant weather and do a few activities. Inside, make a few changes that will signify the changes to come. Make things brighter and throw some positive sayings up on the wall. Establish a yoga and meditation place!

Conclusion

Your surroundings could be the roadblock to your success. Look around and take stock. Ensure your outside, negative impacts are lessened, if not gone. Integrate these 3 things to your new goals (you’re setting new objectives, right?) And see the magic happen!

This post was formerly published on Whoholdsthecardsnow.com and is republished here with permission from the author.

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Before Tying the Knot, How Environment Friendly Is Your Future Spouse?

My advice would be to sit down and have a conversation with your new or soon to be partner about how environmentally friendly you would like to live and what Eco habits you might have.

I have been married for 15 years now but one of the significant challenges we had as newlyweds was our ecological views. While my wife wasn’t much worried about environmental practices, I appreciate doing my part to recycle, recycle, and reduce my carbon footprint.

Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle

One of the first things I do is decrease what I use. I only purchase or make what I want. By way of example, when eating out I know my 2-year-old won’t consume an entire kids meal and neither will my 8-year-old. To decrease food waste my children share a kids meal. My spouse and I share too. This way we do not wind up with leftovers that no one eats.

Reusing was another notion my wife needed to get used to. I am able to find uses for an assortment of things, from the vacant butter containers to old socks. For the infrequent occasions, I really do have dinner leftovers empty butter or cool whip containers are perfect for keeping food or transporting food for lunch the following day.

Recycling wasn’t a new idea to my wife. She knew about the next garbage can that’s just intended for recyclable goods. I began to stop using products which can not be recycled. As an example, we shifted our coffee pot from one using the non-recyclable pods into a conventional filter and reusable basket. We no longer buy water in bottles but have a stainless steel water bottle we place water and ice in every morning to take with us. In addition, we take our own bags to the grocery store so we do not need to use plastic bags.

Here are my finest five hints for Eco-friendly living.

One, store online, when your clothes shop or grocery store online I just buy what I want and decrease what I use.

Two, my children and myself wearing a great deal of resale or hand me down clothes. There are great resale stores that sell excellent brand clothes which are slightly used for cheap and nobody really knows the difference. My friends and I will swap child clothes and my dad and I’ll exchange clothes or shoes from time to time.

Three, I save water and electricity by doing simple things like just running the dishwasher when it’s full and then using the air-dry alternative. Another appliance suggestion is using the tap cold or tap hot settings in your washer and the timed dry setting on the dryer. This way you’re not using electricity to heat or cool your water temperature and the dryer isn’t using its drying sensation to constantly run until your clothes are extremely dry. Frequently I will hang them up slightly moist and allow them to air dry the rest of the way.

Four, drive a fuel efficient car that has an Eco mode to lower your carbon footprint. Consider driving less by carpooling, walking, or staying home longer.

Five, lower your carbon foot by purchasing man-made created items. There are several options of man-made products on your own wedding registry list that do not utilize our natural resources. Your diamond ring and wedding rings can have lab-created diamonds rather than pure diamonds. The only difference (besides the price) is {} grown in a lab rather than chipping away at nature. Nobody can tell the difference unless you tell them.

My advice would be to sit down and have a conversation with your new or soon to be partner about how environmentally friendly you would like to live and what Eco habits you might have.

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