60? 70? And Beyond?

It’s a sign of the times that divorce is still at the greatest rates ever. Some perceive this as a bad thing, since the conclusion of a long-term relationship can leave someone feeling frustrated and alone. However, like every life challenge that spans each path, the end of one love may cause the start of a much fuller and more fulfilling relationship.

It all depends on how you see love

People over fifty have found that the days are over when lust at first site was utilized to ascertain the right partner. Lust alone doesn’t last. When the love bliss bubble burst, you’re left with the nature of the individual lying next to you. You may have missed this while you’re busily trying to get them. This is when you might discover you do not like that person very much.

Although some people at this age haven’t tried another system to try to find a new partner because we’ve been in a long-term relationship, we’re instinctively aware this alone does not cut it anymore.

I’m not saying that sexual attraction isn’t essential as you get older, it certainly still important to me, but our definition of love varies. This isn’t because we’ve become overly stubborn and set in our ways; it’s that we’ve become less tolerant of what we’re certain another cannot change. Very good sex alone is not sufficient to put lipstick on that pig and make it tolerable.

There is another variable, this has to do with the truth that we learn to love ourselves better as we age. We know a relationship won’t work unless two spouses can enthusiastically and respectfully support each other in their own development without limitation. This is a significant change from where many people began when we discovered our first romantic partners.

The make-up of a venture has shifted

It isn’t only our definition of love which has changed, the formulation for intimate unions has also changed. A huge proportion of people over fifty do not find the need to get married as part of a committed relationship. By way of example, many couples do not find a need to reside together in the exact same home, town, state or even country. There’s absolutely no formula, both people involved will need to find out the best way for them, and that’s fine.

Bottom line is this, if you’re still searching for that sexy woman/man to satisfy your sexual dreams and fill your life with love for perpetuity, then I believe the answer is no, you won’t find true love after fifty. If you’re still relying on sex appeal as your principal feature, then you’re most likely not going to draw the sort of partner that may result in a fulfilling relationship.

But if you are able to be open-minded, optimistic, flexible and accept new dimensions of love that go beyond the physical, you might discover a love that goes beyond sex and love and can help you form a union with another’s body, soul and mind. If that is you, then the solution is yes. There’ll be a few trials, and you’ll need to be patient, however you’ll find the best love of your life with a spouse who completely cherishes you and you them.

Remember, paying gratitude for life ahead will fill joy with joy and calmness.

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Is Having a Love Partner Necessary to Survive Successful and Meaningful Life?

There was a time when dispersing our species was the maximum priority. To accomplish this, one needed a partner to make families, which made with a love partner quite important. That might not be the case now, for we can all see we’ve bred people to beat the band. Even though some would argue that, I think our human species now must embrace a new priority; this of self-actualization. This was coming since educated people started opening our minds to life’s spiritual kingdom and changed the world as far as science and engineering.

Self-actualization is the process where we find the gifts and abilities our founder gave every one of us and then we attempt to share them to create a better world. Many are lucky enough to come across this connection in professions that fill them with enthusiasm, joy, and satisfaction. Other people share their gifts with the world in various ways. An individual need not have a romantic partner so as to self-actualize, this is a travel a person can fulfill.

But today our culture spends so much energy on the topic of finding love and making connections work that you would think it’s the most crucial part in our lives. Before you dismiss this last point, think of all of the other businesses centered on making you look great so that you can attract a partner. These vary from dieting, personal training, makeup, and cosmetic surgery. Let’s not neglect the geometric growth of internet dating for many ages.

I’ve been only going on five years now and I can sense my friends’ sense of urgency to find me a romantic partner. They genuinely feel that I must be miserable not having someone to talk about my life with.

Are couples right? 

Following two twenty-year unions, I also agree {} wonderful having a romantic individual to share one’s life setting a sense of family and working together with another on shared targets. But I also have discovered {} a helluva lot better to live alone than to be with a poor partner.

This says to me about couple-ness is that; two individuals were never supposed to become a single entity. Anything that binds that effort can’t be good for anybody.

So, my response to the posed question is so; no, with a romantic doesn’t guarantee happiness.

It requires work to live happy Whether you’re single  

This isn’t a dissertation against couple-ness, on the contrary, with a excellent partner can be a fantastic blessing. However, you need not count on somebody else for your own happiness. This isn’t essential.

The main thing is to self-actualize by living a conscious life at which you can be open to the current and experience gratitude for what it brings you daily.

If your preference is to share life with somebody, great for you, but this will take conscious work to be sure the connection is life-giving to both spouses. This takes courage, patience and a willingness to understand and accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses. This goes far beyond romantic love.

Having a partner isn’t a need, but it’s a living, breathing daily choice both must make to create a relationship work. If it’s not life-giving to both spouses, it becomes a useless appendage best eliminated.

Having great companions in life

You do not want a romantic partner to enjoy companionship. Some others enjoy great relationships with others in the middle of beautifully fulfilling careers. They have incredibly satisfying lives.

If you’re considering staying married or marrying someone because you fear you may need them to accompany you during your last days, do not do it. This is a major mistake. The main point is, enjoy life as it comes and, if the time arrives when you want someone to look after you, seek the services of a caretaker.

If you’re convinced a romantic partner can allow you to do that, got for it, but do not settle for just anybody, search for the perfect one. If you can’t appear to find him, have faith you are able to keep on living a wonderful, meaningful life without them. Not having a romantic partner isn’t a failure, you have all you need within to create the life you desire.

Bear in mind, paying gratitude for your life ahead will lead to contentment.

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