How Can I Be Feminine, Confident and Vulnerable?

Q: How can I be both confident and vulnerable, particularly after a break-up — like a divorce?

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A: Many people after a nasty divorce do not feel safe to let go, and surrender, and be out of control because we’ve only gone through such a painful experience and we put up these walls to protect ourselves. This wall helps us do things we could control, like our occupation. If we would like to be in control, we become more confident in our occupation. We tend to go for things where we could predict the results and we know the result won’t be pain. You need to decide if you’re over spending some time with your confidence as it doesn’t allow space for him to encourage you, serve you, donate to you, love you — be with you.

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