–I’d love to share some of my trip with you, which attracted me to this stage as an erotic massage therapist and instructor. I have been doing so for over 20 years and it is a journey of continuous learning, growth, expansion, exploration, understanding, and relationship. It is about the body, it is about the mind, it is about the heart, it is about energy, it is about sexuality, it is about sensuality, it is about eroticism, it is about intimacy and much more. Most of what I do and teach now I developed over time and exploration.Some of it comes from learning about the body, energy, consciousness, and seeing how we could use these ideas in a sensuous and erotic way. It’s also very much about the distance where eroticism, the center, and recovery intersect.When our aim is to touch from the heart, to honor the human body and the being in their fullness, meaning each the body including the ability of sensual energy, that occurs. Frequently we use the energy of sexuality as a force of energy, of creativity, of release and recovery.Pleasure is a pathway to those instead of always being the objective. Our bodies, and our genitals, and our sexuality are viewed as portals to something deeper. That is not taking away from the pleasure, it is simply saying that there is more, much more. And once we connect with this the massage experience becomes, transformational, even religious. In this, it has been my intention for these experiences to be viewed as beautiful, empowering, opening rather than hidden or dirty.I was fortunate to participate with an adult fantasy center.This is a fascinating place to be in, and to have access to so many people to research, practice and learn was amazing. I had been living in two worlds, learning about energy, recovery, spirituality, and gender. On earth of, let us call it spirituality, which can be broad but matches a selection of practices, ideas, schools, etc, many people separate sex from elsewhere. Spirituality occurs everywhere but the pelvis. Even a great deal of touch and full-body massage leaves this difference in the center of our bodies. For all those involved in Conscious Sexuality, Neo-Tantra, Taoist Practices, etc, it is a natural connection. For the majority of our planet, not. So for me, being in such seemingly different worlds, and to realize that a good deal of people involved with novelty were not that interested in electricity and spirituality, was intriguing.The excellent part was being able to perform literally thousands of massages, mostly with girls, and learn from that.When I look back at it and think about Malcolm Gladwell’s 10 000 hours, I passed that long ago. To share with all types of bodies, all sorts of responses and reactions. To have the ability to research and find out about so many yoni’s, so many facets of sexual energy and how it moves and works within the body, gave me a field of possibility hardly any individuals get. Over the years I’ll share a few of the experiences with you. Some are extremely sensual and arousing, some nearly surreal, some humorous, some odd, the range of being human.I remember one Sunday morning sitting at a really traditional Jewish wedding, in a table with people I did not know. They all knew each other and were talking about what they’d done the evening before.I sat thinking about what I’d say if anyone asked me. Because…At about 2 am I looked around the area I was in, in the club. There were people watching, some touching each other, even a few having silent sex, and not so silent, in a corner. I was not asked about my night, which was a good deal easier. But it was a distance I had been able to learn and experience so far in. 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Yoni/Lingam Holding Healing


Before the movement there’s holding.

Before the stroke there is stillness.
Before the caress there’s quiet.

Among the most beautiful and effective’strokes’ of massage isn’t moving in any way.
It’s holding.
In presence, profound presence.
Holding with your own heart.
Holding.
Only resting your hands on the body.
With gentleness.
With love.
With the aim of just being with you.

Holding brings you into your own body.
I frequently use it as a ground massage.
It works towards the middle, bringing you to your heart.
It is where the connection starts.

There’s healing in being held.
No movement, no anticipation, no anticipation.
There’s the stillness of being.
And in time, the brain will still as the body quietens.

Create a room, a sacred space, a sensuous space.

Choose the components carefully, with stability.
Breathe, a couple of deep breaths to become present.
Look into your partner’s eyes.
With each other, bring up your hands to your heart center’s in the center of your chest.
Breathe.
Bring your palms forward to touch.
Acknowledge each other with whatever words are suitable, possibly different for a lover and a customer.

Comfortable.
Warm.
Cushions for support where they require.
Sit beside thembetween their legs.
Maintain a comfortable position so that you don’t need to move in this holding.
Place one hand in their Heart Centre, lightly.
Put your other hand in their yoni or lingam, lightly.
Close your eyes.
Proceed inside of yourself, to your heart, to your mind.
Breathe that into your own hands.
Let your hands melt to the shapes, the curves of the body.
Stay present.
As soon as your mind wanders return to your breath.
Hold them.
Melt into them.
Emotions will come and go.
Tears can come and go.
Trembling can come and go.
Hold them.
Stay present.
Breathe.

When it is time, your body will let you know when it is time, when it is time, slowly, so slowly, take your hands off their body.
Cover them.
Sit together.
Stay present.
Remain on your heart.
Stay in love.

Holding is a profound mediation of intimacy.
Within this quiet we releasewe feel.
Within this heat we become.
A present from the giving, a gift in the getting.
Breathe your gratitude for the sharing.
Breathe the chance.

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My Massage Journey


My journey in healing started with massage and I have reconnected with this in this lovely and deep way.

Bodywork, touch function, have always been a large part of everything I do, in the understanding that our routines are in the mind and in the body.
We are energy, our bodies are energy.
Every emotion, every feeling is energy, has a frequency.
Everything we have done, everything that has been done to us, is energy.
These events, these adventures, sit in our cells, in our muscles, in our joints, in our fascia, in our nervous system, in our posture, in our motion.
Our bodies are a manifestation of all that we are, all that we have done, all that has been done to us.
These events and experiences produce our routines, whether expansive or contractive, whether patterns of pain, limit, inhibition, fear, disconnect, holding on or patterns of discharge comfort, integration, creativity, exploration, link, and intimacy.
These routines are in the mind in addition to in the body.
Healing, altering, releasing allows power to flow and move.
Like a river should stream, so does our energy.
Where the river has blocked the water becomes dirty and filled with mosquitoes and all kinds of junk.
So it’s with our energy.
The points of congestion are the pains of our lives, the damage, and also the restriction that we hold onto and live with and from.
As we release these in the body the stream starts, we are ready to let go, we are in a position to start to change, cure, enlarge and punctually, create.
Touch is one of the most effective languages of the body.
Heart Touch, a bit of existence, of intimacy, of relationship, enables the body to discharge to relax, to start, to find a new way of being, of moving, physically, emotionally and in vitality.
This signature goes deeply into the body, it is an expression of energy. It goes through the skin. It speaks to our cells, our cells. It conveys a message of discharge, of comfort, of peace. It conveys a message of letting go.
And in time, it carries a message of production, of chance.
And once we add the energy of enjoyment for this, we are adding a supercharged element.
It is all about frequency.
The frequency of pleasure is mild, it is joyous, it is happy, it is a celebration, it is vibrant and alive and vital.
It joins with intelligence in the body, an energy which guides where it requires. And in this brings something fresh to the mind. We can alter the mind through the body.
From this renewed link, and deeper comprehension of this signature has emerged new massage encounters, bringing elements of energy and sensation together in a way I have never been able to see before.
Its come from my own healing, learning and expanding my comprehension.
I am amazed at what I am seeing people do with it in my clinic, and I’m loving it, and seeing how it’s expanding the folks learning it.
I have always said that there are no limits to energy, to delight, just what we’ll allow.
I love the risk that is there for all people.

I’d love to share with you among the experiences that I am working with.
We’ll focus on the tradition of it instead of entering the explanation.

The space you are doing so in is warm and comfy, it has the components which are important to you.
The person that you’re working with lies in their stomach.
I start with a single hand on the sacrum, another on the heart center.
I guide someone to take three deep breaths, I do exactly the same.
The hand on the sacrum starts to move in a slow, gentle circle.
Then 1 hand remains on the sacrum, another strokes down the leg, gradually. Each stroke takes close to two minutes.
You’ll have to move to another side of the body for another leg so that your arms do not get tangled up.
Then 1 hand remains on the sacrum, another strokes up the spine, slowly, slowly.
That is it.
Straightforward, but what it is doing…

When we work together with the wisdom of this body we are allowing so many things to occur, which will differ for everybody, and different each time.
We are creating a space of relationship, of comfort, of discharge, allowing power to move, allowing the innate power within us to do what we all want.

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The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist


I’d love to share some of my trip with you, which attracted me to this stage as an erotic massage therapist and instructor.

I have been doing so for over 20 years and it is a journey of continuous learning, growth, expansion, exploration, understanding, and relationship.
It is about the body, it is about the mind, it is about the heart, it is about energy, it is about sexuality, it is about sensuality, it is about eroticism, it is about intimacy and much more.

Most of what I do and teach now I developed over time and exploration.
Some of it comes from learning about the body, energy, consciousness, and seeing how we could use these ideas in a sensuous and erotic way.

It’s also very much about the distance where eroticism, the center, and recovery intersect.
When our aim is to touch from the heart, to honor the human body and the being in their fullness, meaning each the body including the ability of sensual energy, that occurs.
Very often we use the energy of sexuality as a force of energy, of creativity, of release and recovery.

Pleasure is a pathway to those instead of always being the objective. Our bodies, and our genitals, and our sexuality are viewed as portals to something deeper.
That is not taking away from the pleasure, it is simply saying that there is more, much more.
And once we connect with this the massage experience becomes, transformational, even religious.

In this, it has been my intention for these experiences to be viewed as beautiful, empowering, opening rather than hidden or dirty.

I was fortunate to participate with an adult fantasy center.
This is a fascinating place to be in, and to have access to so many people to research, practice and learn was amazing.
I had been living in two worlds, learning about energy, recovery, spirituality, and gender.
On earth of, let us call it spirituality, which can be broad but matches a selection of practices, ideas, schools etc, many people separate sex from elsewhere. Spirituality occurs everywhere but the pelvis.
Even a great deal of touch and full-body massage leaves this difference in the center of our bodies.
For all those involved in Conscious Sexuality, Neo-Tantra, Taoist Practices etc, it is a natural connection.
For the majority of our planet, not.

So for me, being in such seemingly different worlds, and to realize that a good deal of people involved with novelty were not that interested in electricity and spirituality, was intriguing.

The excellent part was being able to perform literally thousands of messages, mostly with girls, and learn from that.

To share with all types of bodies, all sorts of responses and reactions.
To have the ability to research and find out about so many yoni’s, so many facets of sexual energy and how it moves and works within the body, gave me a field of possibility hardly any individuals get.

Over the years I’ll share a few of the experiences with you. Some are extremely sensual and arousing, some nearly surreal, some humorous, some odd, the range of being human.

I remember one Sunday morning sitting at a really traditional Jewish wedding, in a table with people I did not know. They all knew each other and were talking about what they’d done the evening before.
I sat thinking about what I’d say if anyone asked me.
Since…
At about 2 am I looked around the area I was in, in the club. There were people watching, some touching each other, even a few having silent sex, and not so silent, in a corner.
I was not asked about my night, which was a good deal easier.
But it was a distance I had been able to learn and experience so far in.

And from this, such possibility…

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A Self-Pleasuring Sexual Energy Experience


This is a self-pleasuring experience which will make it possible for you to experience your sexual energy.

Once we can construct that energy, that amazing, strong, vital sexual energy once we can assemble it and keep it inside of us, there’s an intelligence within that can use that energy. It might take us into a meditative state, deep and calm. It could fill us with zingy aliveness.
It may take us on a journey of introspection and self-inquiry.
It might be that we become full of creative ideas and energy.
It might be led to a part of us that needs recovery.
It may connect us with a sense of closeness and love for ourselves, for lifetime.
It is a space of possibility if we but let it.

Create a ritual space, a sacred space, a sensuous space.
This may be anywhere.
Be hot, without that you can not relax and become within your body.
You might want candles, music, incense, crystals, shells, items which are important to you.
Contain a lubricant on your preparation.
Pillows, towels, blankets, whatever else you feel you may need.

Start with The Heart Breath.
Put one hand, both hands, in your Heart Centre.
Breathe.
A slow deep breath in, a slow deep breath outside.
Maintain this breath, deep and slow for at least 5 minutes.

Then put one hand on your Yoni or Lingam and keep the other in your Heart Centre.
Breathe.
As you breathe you will feel that the energy moving to your Sexual Centre, as you breathe it out moves into your Heart.
It might be the other way around.
You are linking these two centre, allowing the energy to flow between them.
Maintain this breath, deep and slow for at least 5 minutes.

With some lubricant start to touch your Yoni or Lingam.

Keep your breath deep and slow.
Touch gradually, touch gently.
Keep your body relaxed.

Energy moves in comfort.
Maintain your focus on your heart, with your breath.
If your mind wanders, as it will, return to your breath.
The breath permits you to remain within your body, on your feelings, at the sense, in the energy.

A potential movement for a guy is a couple of stakes up your Lingam, hand over hand, then a few strikes, down, hand over hand.
Breathe.

A potential motion for a woman is stroking between your inner and outer lips on one side, a stroke down the center of your Yoni, and between the lips on the other side.
Breathe.

Keep your signature slow and gentle.
Do not go harder, do not go faster.
Remain in the moment, in the softness, the slowness of your self.
Remain in the sensation.
Breathe, deep and slow.
Maintain your focus in your Heart.

Keep this touch, this breathe for around 10 minutes.
Then lie still.
And breathe.
Permit the energy to move on your body as it will, to take you where it will.

A gift of sensuality, a present of sensation, a gift of relationship, a present of sexual energy, a gift of existence.
It is acknowledging yourself.
It is honoring yourself.
It is making love with yourself.

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What’s Become Of Us?


There’s something which I’ve been hearing so much lately in my job.

‘I can not tell him that, it is going to hurt his self.’

‘If I say he’s going to tell me to not tell him what to do.’
Is that what our sexual voice is now, us guys?

‘I need to discover a way to say it that will not upset him, and I must wait for the ideal time.’
Is that what our psychological voice is now, is guys?

The majority of the men and women who come to the workshops and retreats are girls.

What’s become of us guys?

Is that a space too full of fear?

And what exactly are we afraid ofbeing vulnerable, being disclosed, not knowing enough, being emotional, not understanding how to love, not being able to be romantic, being too proud, being too closed, not understanding how to be different, do different?
What’s the power, the unbelievable power we have contributed for this fear, to this vulnerability, to this willingness, our partners can’t tell us much without us being hurt, retreating, shutting down?

Do not we see how much they want to give us pleasure, how much they would like us to learn how to pleasure them?

Do not we see just how much love they have for us, and how much they are open to out of us?
Do not we see just how much they need to heal, to learn, to grow, to link, and just how much they would like us to do the same?

And we sit at the panic, at the shut-down, shut-off space, where what we have to provide is withdrawal, anger, frustration, disconnect and’Do not tell me what to do, do not tell me the way to touch you, how to kiss you, how to…’

Do not we see how she would love to worship us, love us?

And just how much she longs for that from us?

Do not we see how open her heart could be, and how much she wants to feel ours?

Do not we see just how much she’d love to research and experience?

It is so interesting when you consider the Neo-Tantric groups, the Conscious Sexuality pages, just how much there is for women, about women, about female sexuality, feminine sensuality, feminine power. It’s beautiful!

And it is time there was for us.
It is time we stepped out and up, us guys.
It is time we made more spaces for us to talk about, to speak, to link, to heal, to learn, to research.

Ourselves.

I had a fascinating insight following a Biodanza Vivencia a little while ago. I was walking out behind two girls, and the way that they shared, not so much what, how, brought me to determine how significant the sisterhood is, how much support there is in how girls of consciousness are with each other.

And it brings me to ask, what about us, where’s the brotherhood?

The brotherhood of the center.

The brotherhood that lets us feel the strength of a man’s arms holding us{} us.

The brotherhood that lets us be seen by the eyes of a person.

It’s time.
Time for us to perform our job.
It is time.

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The Slow Magic


Slow brings us into existence.

All else drifts away naturally when we exist.
There is absolutely not any struggle in slow, there’s surrender, to this moment, to our own body, to our breath, to feeling, to feeling.
In slow there’s flow. The way we proceed becomes a pure expression of the silent within.
This is the silent of intimacy, of relationship.
In slow we’re aware, expanded.
In slow we believe we go deeper, softly, easily.
Nothing is forced, we’re aligned.
In slow there’s softness, an energy which moves within me, within you, that surrounds usmoves between us cocoons us.
In slow there isn’t any time, we drift into endlessness.

Allow the slow start with your breath.
Into your heart, from your heart.
Deepening.

Let your kiss be slow, the assembly of your lips a caress that is barely there.
Allow the dancing of your mouths be slow, an exploration which sips me.
Let your signature be slow, so slow.

I feel your skin, your body with a stroke which just moves. Your curves, your valleys, your hills, endless under my slowly moving hands.

Gradually I breathe you to me, your scent, your breath. I fill my lungs with you to the base of my breath.

Let your marriage be slow, so slow, even slower.
Let your body get your fan as a flower opens to the morning sunshine.
Allow yourself to be drawn into this sacred flower, spreading her petals in exquisite sensation.

At the slow you breathe your growth, filling her with your warmth.
From the slow, you dancing deeper and deeper in the liquid puzzle.
Each movement, every breath, fills your entire body.

In the slow, you’re open for the energy to move through you.
From the slow, you go beyond the mind, beyond the body, into consciousness.

There’s healing in the slow.
Deep recovery, deep release as that we have held onto, what has held onto us, dissolves.

There’s intimacy from the slow.
Deep intimacy.
The slow brings us into existence.
Presence is an element of familiarity.

There’s magic in the slow.
It takes a while, it takes practice to be current.
It takes some time for us to understand and feel and love the subtle, and oh, how delicious the subtle is.

Millimeter by millimeter we start, micro-movements.
It takes a while for us to find the place in us that may be without continuous stimulation, so that allows power to move, to flow, to sense that stream, to observe it and maintain it.
There’s learning from the slow, teaching from the slow because it draws us deeper inside and we listen to the inner voice, we learn to listen to it talk without words.

There’s magic in the slow.

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Pelvic Tension, Sexual Tension, Life Tension


All of us carry an enormous quantity of tension in our bodies and in various areas of our being.
This tension is one of the best blocks to us experiencing profound heights of sensual and sexual pleasure.

The tension we hold is now second nature for so many people. In actuality, beyond that, it has become our character. It is so deeply ingrained that we frequently don’t even know it is there, and over that, we’ve got no idea how we would be without it. It has become our definition.
The tension goes deeply into our bodies, into muscles, nerves, ligaments, glands and organs. It runs through our minds and hearts, effecting emotions and thoughts.

And sensations.

And Sensations.
The pressure we hold, especially in and around our pelvis is among the best blocks to us having more and deeper fulfilling pleasure experiences.
Going even farther than that, it is a huge and frequently unacknowledged reason behind many sexual problems for both women and men.
In men, it manifests in erection and premature ejaculation problems, and in women, it has a massive effect on anorgasmia, yoni tension, and painful sex.

We hold things there, virtually all of us. And it is deep stuff, from way back. The bodily tension is directly linked to our emotional patterns, our guilt, our shame, our humiliation. To everything, we have had to do to find acceptance and love. To each time we gave ourselves off. To each time we felt not good enough, and all of the decisions and insecurities that come out of that.

This is what stays in our pelvic muscles. And include the tension of modern life, the constant tension we live with in a world always on the edge of insanity.

Letting go into joy, letting go deeply into joy gets harder and harder. Having orgasms, for people who do, is simple. Deep pleasure, another story.

The pressure in our pelvis impacts on the whole body. The greater the tension and stiffness there, the greater the tension throughout your body. Here is an interesting little aside, more headaches and neck aches could be alleviated through deep gluteal massage compared to shoulder and neck massage. And much more headaches and stress-related ailments, that’s the single most significant cause of illness in the world, would be alleviated through profound pleasure experiences more than anything else.

The pressure in our pelvis changes how the whole body sits. And the effect on the sexuality is huge. 1 instance of this, which affects a lot of women, is that constriction from the pelvis makes it incredibly hard for the G-Spot to become alert and aroused. Another is that all these men seek sexual control to deepen their own enjoyment, in addition to that of their spouses. Tension in the muscles of the groin and deep within the anus makes this extremely tricky.

Deep release work of those muscles not only increases our pleasure chances but releases the entire body into a more balanced and relaxed condition. And there is more.

Gabor Mate talks about two ways of being.

The first is defensive and protective, which we spend the majority of our lives in. This is a condition of tension and survival. It is a state of tension, of the brain, of their body, of the heart and of our vitality.

It is a state of regeneration. Movement of any kind gets difficult in this nation.

Another way of being is engaged and open. In this we are curious, we are exploring, we’re learning, we are expanding, we are moving.

There’s rhythm.

The rhythm of discharge, the rhythm of comfort, the rhythm of letting go.

For so many people, our tension, that which we hold on, in every way, has come to define us. As we begin to give up this we’re in a position to redefine ourselves, become somebody different and live otherwise, experience differently, feel differently.

It’s really a no-brainer.
Less tension, more comfort, way more pleasure.

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Beyond Pleasure


There is a fascinating idea in Conscious Sexuality that lets us look at sexuality differently and opens up a huge possibility.

It is about going beyond joy. For many people, sex is about pleasure, about climax. And I need to say that I am rather happy about that, so much of my job is helping you’ve got more pleasure, and so lots of my assignments are about pleasure.

But there is more, so much more.

There is a context for why sex is about pleasure–that is normally in the area of fascination, of love, of a connection of some description. And within this circumstance, we come together to experience pleasure.

What happens if we take pleasure out as a target?

It is going to be there anyway since our genitals are involved. And we’ve got all these remarkable nerves and pleasure centers which are stimulated anyway. But let us go to some place where there is more. And in this, in addition to dropping the objective of pleasure, perhaps we can drop the story and circumstance also.

What happens if gender became about energy, about exploring a few of the possibilities of sexual energy? About building that in the body to use for meditation, for creativity, for inspiration, etc..

We can learn how to direct the energy to certain places in the body that we may need it.
We can learn how to channel it into imagination.
We can use this to achieve altered states of consciousness, as a means to have a religious experience.

What happens if I want to concentrate on my heart through sexual activity, go deeply into that energy by breathing, by placing all my aim on that heart, and what is going on in the rest of my body is secondary? How about researching different sensations in my body, in my yoni, in my lingam?
How about using gender as a tool for self-inquiry, what will different experiences bring me up emotionally, what will they activate, and how do I heal these? How about these experiences being a part of dropping the labels and limitations that I might have accepted from others, or taken on myself?

What makes this interesting is that I believe we need to go deeply into joy first.

So a lot people struggle with aspects of enjoyment. So many women aren’t having orgasms, are having painful intercourse, aren’t able to let go, have suppressed their desire and their sexual passion.

So many guys have reaction and ejaculation issues, are not able to let go, have suppressed their sexual desire and sexual passion.

So lots of people, in a universe of incredible stress battle with libido problems, with familiarity, with being sexually accurate and participated.

We must go into joy first, heal these aspects of ourselves, express and explore them. We will need to understand who we are sexually.

We must also explore consciousness, know what holds us in patterns, the constraints we live with, the beliefs that keep us alive conditioned lives. Then we begin to bring these together, and in this open the doors to a world of experiences that express our sexuality in a different manner.

We do not stop having pleasure.
We do not stop going deeper into joy, since there’s so much that’s beautiful and strong in these experiences.
We expand.
We enlarge our hearts, our minds, our bodies, our energy.

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The Endless Worlds of Sensual Massage


Among the most gorgeous things about learning and experiencing Sensual Massage, Heart Touch, Sexual Energy Massage, Energy Healing Massage etc is the endless world of possibilities they provide.

A few years back I was in a sex expo giving talks, doing some massage demo and teaching workshops. I had had an idea for a little while about enlarging the possibilities of sensation, and so I called a friend who had been a Dom and had a conversation with him about what I thought we can do.

It is a bit experience that takes you deep into your body, into your energy, with a {} of sensations.
It is a place where feeling and emotion come together.
It is an exploration of the possibilities of feeling, from the subtle, oh so subtle, to a little firmer, to the sting of something which sends waves throughout your whole body.
It is deeply pleasurable.
It is a meditation on touch.
It may take you to an expanded state of consciousness.
It can be amazingly healing.
It is about heightened feeling and the awakening to new emotions, to being touched in places and ways you might not have before.
It opens doors to enlarging your self-perception.
It is erotic.
It’s a dream.
It is a space of creative play.
It is a ritual of conscious connection.

The deeper I go the more I see how the energy is in the center, in touching as an expression of love.
The deeper I go the more I see how touch-deprived so a lot of us are, and just how much recovery comes from being touched with love.
The deeper I go the more I see how disconnected we are, so many people, from ourselves, from our feelings, from our bodies, from feeling, and out of each other.
The deeper I go the more I see just how stressed so a lot of us are without realizing it because it’s become our default setting.
The deeper I go the more I see the power of relationship, with ourselves, through signature and the myriad gifts that attracts us.
The deeper I go the more I see how these encounters, these magical massages, and that phrase gets so limited occasionally, can enlarge us, free us, open us to life in so many ways.

And I love that after doing and teaching massage, bodywork and touch for more than 20 years there are constantly new dimensions and possibilities to explore and experience.

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