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So, without further ado, here are today’s questions!
I have a rather distinctive question that I think you would have a valuable response about. There’s an obvious attraction between my former/future professor and I. It was a enormous uncomfortable measure, but I really worked up the balls to ask her out a couple of months before, and we ended up moving out two more later.
Even though there’s an attraction between us, I find myself holding back due to the age difference (I am 23, she’s 30) and the excellence she’s in school. It’s very tricky for me to perform a complete role reversal when I see her out of school and be the one in control and foremost, though I’m CERTAIN that is exactly what she wants. Would you suggest some possible ways I can get over the era and excellence problems and just be as I’d around any other girls?
Your advice is much appreciated. Thank You, R.
**My Response To Reader 1’s Query **
Thanks for your query R!
Listen, you have this age gap between the two of you. The way you feel about the age gap is all in your head. If she’s attracted to you and you’re attracted to one another, then what does the entire superiority thing matter? If she is okay with the age thing, then it really does not make a difference. The thing is, though, that you’re giving her all of the power. You are giving her the excellence. If this lady is interested in you then she is interested in you.
So go take her out and have fun just like you would with any other girl. Do not bring up the age gap. Do not bring up the excellence issue.
Just take her out and have fun just like you would on any other date, and let her get to know you in that circumstance. She is able to make up her own mind. If you go out with her feeling like she is exceptional or any supreme being from another world, then of course it is going to be uncomfortable and won’t work.
**Reader Question two **
Over the weekend I attended a wedding to my aunt where I was the ideal lady. I suddenly developed feelings for the best guy on a Saturday morning in the church services. David, you know I love him so much I would spend sleepless nights thinkming about him. But he does not know I love him. All I know is that he has been avoiding me, we had never stayed together in precisely the exact same location, he would leave if the person we’re with leaves.
1 thing I know is that I can not tell him I love him. I’ve just recieved an sms from him telling me that he was tired thou he had an shuttle. He said I looked so amazing.
My question to you is,”How do I make him tell me he loves me?”
**My Response To Reader 2’s Issue **
How can you make someone tell you that he loves you? You have got to be kidding me. This is one of the most unhealthy emails I have ever received. I’m sorry I need to say that, but anybody who has this sort of mindset needs deeper assistance. I am not talking about only from a relationship coach, but perhaps concerning some sort of therapy.
You do not make someone love you. You don’t search for ways of making somebody tell you that they love you. First, a guy should ask you out on a date. Second, you will need to have chemistry and get to know each other. To attempt and get someone to create a man love you’re just wrong. It is wrong from every angle.
This is like some dream in your head. Where’s your reality? You do not even know this individual, but you say you love him? You do not know what he’s all about. He had been avoiding you. You’ve never stayed together in precisely the exact same location. So how can you love this person? It is a dream in your mind.
Isabella, you have got to begin living in reality. What do you want from life? Do you want real connections with guys, or are you just living what I call the ultimate dream? You hardly meet someone and you’ve got this beautiful and perfect picture of him on your mind that does not really exist.
Don’t ever attempt to make a guy tell you that he loves you. This totally reminds me of Glenn Close the bunny boiler in Fatal Attraction.
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