Ever meet a man doula? Here is your chance.Listen to Real Men Feel, #146, “Men’s Role in Birth” here: Male doula, William Moore, joins us to talk about the importance of men being involved in the birthing process.”There are those who think inside the box. There are people that are commended for thinking outside the box. I say why are you in the box to start with?” ~ William Moore William Moore, C.P.E. is a Semi-Professional Football player, an artist, a public health professional, a doula and most importantly a guy who cares about his community. As a Certified Perinatal Educator, Doula and Lactation Educator who’s sensitive to expectant mother’s and father’s needs, William is an advocate for them in the physician’s office and during the birth procedure.This wide-ranging interview covers what doulas do, the importance of men being involved, the stereotypes against guys being involved, the energy of a great Grandma, toxic masculinity, joy, and being weird.Issues and Questions Include:(1:34) What’s a doula? (4:56) Postpartum and breastfeeding support (7:25) Is it common for men to become doulas? (10:40 ) Break out of the domain of labels. (19:06) Infant and maternal mortality rates (20:30) Let’s get more guys involved in the birth process (24:05) Reasons for the disparity in infant mortality and maternal death rates — systematic racism. (27:40) Are men resistant to being more concerned? (29:24) Ideas on toxic masculinity. (36:39) Will’s philosophy for life. (42:40) The slow death of letting someone else define you. (45:24) Being bizarre and embracing it (51:16) After your eyesight (52:39) What do you need more guys realized about the birthing procedure? (56:56) What both parents want for their children. ◊♦◊[embedded material ] [embedded material ] “Many men and women see birth function as women’s work. But caring for your family is not women’s work, it’s family work. It’s incumbent on everyone.” ~ William Moore Interested in being on Will’s podcast? email [email protected]For information on his doula work, contact [email protected] Will’s podcast, Chill Time is Will Time. Let us know what you thought here in the comments or shoot an email to [email protected].Subscribe to the podcast in RealMenFeel.org/iTunesLike the Actual Men Feel show on Facebook facebook.com/realmenfeelshowScroll down to the author bio for all the links to get more #RealMenFeelA version of this article was previously published on RealMenFeel.org and is republished here with permission by the author.–If you think in the work we’re doing here at The Great Men Project and wish to join our calls on a regular basis, please join us as a Premium Member, now. All Premium Members get to See The Great Men Project with NO ADS.A $50 annual membership provides you an all-access pass. You can be a part of each telephone, group, class, and community.A $25 yearly membership provides you access to a single class, one Social Interest group, and our online communities. A $12 annual membership provides you access to our Friday calls with the publisher, our online community. Register New Account Need more info? A whole list of advantages is here.–Photo by Christian Bowen on Unsplash

Taking good care of your family is not women’s work, it’s family work.

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Be in Your Body to Be with a Woman


Men are, broadly speaking, so very good at being cognitive beings. I witness you wish to make sense of things from mind. Rational thought has become the go-to survival mechanism at a working age.

But allow me to ask you this: How can a guy who sits behind a computer all day know the way to be with a girl? How can a guy who goes to work in an office all day know the way to be with a girl?

You can’t THINK about being with a girl and have intimacy really be amazing. Thinking alone, in this situation, will get you nowhere. Knowing in mind how to be with a girl, and understanding in the body how to be with a girl, are two entirely different things.

And she wants you on your body.

She wants you to know the way to be with her with your body.

Therefore, guys, you can boost your intimacy greatly by having a practice which gets you into your own body. What do I mean by that? Do something that makes you sweat, which makes you feel in touch with your body, and makes you feel alive. Because when you can feel your entire body, you bring your entire body to closeness, and this is exactly what she’s craving. When you’re coming to closeness mostly with cognition and a penis, sex is level. Mechanic. Eh.

The best lover I ever had understood his body so well. He had been using his body at work and play because he was a boy he had never stopped. He was pure physicality, and therefore he understood the whole body was involved in sex and intimacy. He understood the value of sensations.

Also, due to his presence and consciousness in his entire body, he felt really safer for me to trust. He knew how to touch my body, so I could lean into his. Lots of women are holding patterns of injury around intimacy and sex, and the more you’re in your body, person, and conscious of yourself, it really translates into a trusting existence to her, in part, just by your confidence on your own physicality.

You become more dependable to a woman when you’ve got a connection to your physical body.

When I hear a lady tell me she would like to completely surrender to her husband, and she is asking him to”hold space” for her, and he does not know how to do this — it makes me think — we want men in their own bodies.

If you understood your body, you’d know that you’ve got consent to take up space on earth. That you’re not just your ideas or your dutiful performance. When a lady is asking for secure distance, she is asking that you understand the energy of the masculine in you. This energy is not found by believing.

Engage your muscles. It is a solid start.

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