My Massage Journey


My journey in healing started with massage and I have reconnected with this in this lovely and deep way.

Bodywork, touch function, have always been a large part of everything I do, in the understanding that our routines are in the mind and in the body.
We are energy, our bodies are energy.
Every emotion, every feeling is energy, has a frequency.
Everything we have done, everything that has been done to us, is energy.
These events, these adventures, sit in our cells, in our muscles, in our joints, in our fascia, in our nervous system, in our posture, in our motion.
Our bodies are a manifestation of all that we are, all that we have done, all that has been done to us.
These events and experiences produce our routines, whether expansive or contractive, whether patterns of pain, limit, inhibition, fear, disconnect, holding on or patterns of discharge comfort, integration, creativity, exploration, link, and intimacy.
These routines are in the mind in addition to in the body.
Healing, altering, releasing allows power to flow and move.
Like a river should stream, so does our energy.
Where the river has blocked the water becomes dirty and filled with mosquitoes and all kinds of junk.
So it’s with our energy.
The points of congestion are the pains of our lives, the damage, and also the restriction that we hold onto and live with and from.
As we release these in the body the stream starts, we are ready to let go, we are in a position to start to change, cure, enlarge and punctually, create.
Touch is one of the most effective languages of the body.
Heart Touch, a bit of existence, of intimacy, of relationship, enables the body to discharge to relax, to start, to find a new way of being, of moving, physically, emotionally and in vitality.
This signature goes deeply into the body, it is an expression of energy. It goes through the skin. It speaks to our cells, our cells. It conveys a message of discharge, of comfort, of peace. It conveys a message of letting go.
And in time, it carries a message of production, of chance.
And once we add the energy of enjoyment for this, we are adding a supercharged element.
It is all about frequency.
The frequency of pleasure is mild, it is joyous, it is happy, it is a celebration, it is vibrant and alive and vital.
It joins with intelligence in the body, an energy which guides where it requires. And in this brings something fresh to the mind. We can alter the mind through the body.
From this renewed link, and deeper comprehension of this signature has emerged new massage encounters, bringing elements of energy and sensation together in a way I have never been able to see before.
Its come from my own healing, learning and expanding my comprehension.
I am amazed at what I am seeing people do with it in my clinic, and I’m loving it, and seeing how it’s expanding the folks learning it.
I have always said that there are no limits to energy, to delight, just what we’ll allow.
I love the risk that is there for all people.

I’d love to share with you among the experiences that I am working with.
We’ll focus on the tradition of it instead of entering the explanation.

The space you are doing so in is warm and comfy, it has the components which are important to you.
The person that you’re working with lies in their stomach.
I start with a single hand on the sacrum, another on the heart center.
I guide someone to take three deep breaths, I do exactly the same.
The hand on the sacrum starts to move in a slow, gentle circle.
Then 1 hand remains on the sacrum, another strokes down the leg, gradually. Each stroke takes close to two minutes.
You’ll have to move to another side of the body for another leg so that your arms do not get tangled up.
Then 1 hand remains on the sacrum, another strokes up the spine, slowly, slowly.
That is it.
Straightforward, but what it is doing…

When we work together with the wisdom of this body we are allowing so many things to occur, which will differ for everybody, and different each time.
We are creating a space of relationship, of comfort, of discharge, allowing power to move, allowing the innate power within us to do what we all want.

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The Slow Magic


Slow brings us into existence.

All else drifts away naturally when we exist.
There is absolutely not any struggle in slow, there’s surrender, to this moment, to our own body, to our breath, to feeling, to feeling.
In slow there’s flow. The way we proceed becomes a pure expression of the silent within.
This is the silent of intimacy, of relationship.
In slow we’re aware, expanded.
In slow we believe we go deeper, softly, easily.
Nothing is forced, we’re aligned.
In slow there’s softness, an energy which moves within me, within you, that surrounds usmoves between us cocoons us.
In slow there isn’t any time, we drift into endlessness.

Allow the slow start with your breath.
Into your heart, from your heart.
Deepening.

Let your kiss be slow, the assembly of your lips a caress that is barely there.
Allow the dancing of your mouths be slow, an exploration which sips me.
Let your signature be slow, so slow.

I feel your skin, your body with a stroke which just moves. Your curves, your valleys, your hills, endless under my slowly moving hands.

Gradually I breathe you to me, your scent, your breath. I fill my lungs with you to the base of my breath.

Let your marriage be slow, so slow, even slower.
Let your body get your fan as a flower opens to the morning sunshine.
Allow yourself to be drawn into this sacred flower, spreading her petals in exquisite sensation.

At the slow you breathe your growth, filling her with your warmth.
From the slow, you dancing deeper and deeper in the liquid puzzle.
Each movement, every breath, fills your entire body.

In the slow, you’re open for the energy to move through you.
From the slow, you go beyond the mind, beyond the body, into consciousness.

There’s healing in the slow.
Deep recovery, deep release as that we have held onto, what has held onto us, dissolves.

There’s intimacy from the slow.
Deep intimacy.
The slow brings us into existence.
Presence is an element of familiarity.

There’s magic in the slow.
It takes a while, it takes practice to be current.
It takes some time for us to understand and feel and love the subtle, and oh, how delicious the subtle is.

Millimeter by millimeter we start, micro-movements.
It takes a while for us to find the place in us that may be without continuous stimulation, so that allows power to move, to flow, to sense that stream, to observe it and maintain it.
There’s learning from the slow, teaching from the slow because it draws us deeper inside and we listen to the inner voice, we learn to listen to it talk without words.

There’s magic in the slow.

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Beyond Pleasure


There is a fascinating idea in Conscious Sexuality that lets us look at sexuality differently and opens up a huge possibility.

It is about going beyond joy. For many people, sex is about pleasure, about climax. And I need to say that I am rather happy about that, so much of my job is helping you’ve got more pleasure, and so lots of my assignments are about pleasure.

But there is more, so much more.

There is a context for why sex is about pleasure–that is normally in the area of fascination, of love, of a connection of some description. And within this circumstance, we come together to experience pleasure.

What happens if we take pleasure out as a target?

It is going to be there anyway since our genitals are involved. And we’ve got all these remarkable nerves and pleasure centers which are stimulated anyway. But let us go to some place where there is more. And in this, in addition to dropping the objective of pleasure, perhaps we can drop the story and circumstance also.

What happens if gender became about energy, about exploring a few of the possibilities of sexual energy? About building that in the body to use for meditation, for creativity, for inspiration, etc..

We can learn how to direct the energy to certain places in the body that we may need it.
We can learn how to channel it into imagination.
We can use this to achieve altered states of consciousness, as a means to have a religious experience.

What happens if I want to concentrate on my heart through sexual activity, go deeply into that energy by breathing, by placing all my aim on that heart, and what is going on in the rest of my body is secondary? How about researching different sensations in my body, in my yoni, in my lingam?
How about using gender as a tool for self-inquiry, what will different experiences bring me up emotionally, what will they activate, and how do I heal these? How about these experiences being a part of dropping the labels and limitations that I might have accepted from others, or taken on myself?

What makes this interesting is that I believe we need to go deeply into joy first.

So a lot people struggle with aspects of enjoyment. So many women aren’t having orgasms, are having painful intercourse, aren’t able to let go, have suppressed their desire and their sexual passion.

So many guys have reaction and ejaculation issues, are not able to let go, have suppressed their sexual desire and sexual passion.

So lots of people, in a universe of incredible stress battle with libido problems, with familiarity, with being sexually accurate and participated.

We must go into joy first, heal these aspects of ourselves, express and explore them. We will need to understand who we are sexually.

We must also explore consciousness, know what holds us in patterns, the constraints we live with, the beliefs that keep us alive conditioned lives. Then we begin to bring these together, and in this open the doors to a world of experiences that express our sexuality in a different manner.

We do not stop having pleasure.
We do not stop going deeper into joy, since there’s so much that’s beautiful and strong in these experiences.
We expand.
We enlarge our hearts, our minds, our bodies, our energy.

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The Endless Worlds of Sensual Massage


Among the most gorgeous things about learning and experiencing Sensual Massage, Heart Touch, Sexual Energy Massage, Energy Healing Massage etc is the endless world of possibilities they provide.

A few years back I was in a sex expo giving talks, doing some massage demo and teaching workshops. I had had an idea for a little while about enlarging the possibilities of sensation, and so I called a friend who had been a Dom and had a conversation with him about what I thought we can do.

It is a bit experience that takes you deep into your body, into your energy, with a {} of sensations.
It is a place where feeling and emotion come together.
It is an exploration of the possibilities of feeling, from the subtle, oh so subtle, to a little firmer, to the sting of something which sends waves throughout your whole body.
It is deeply pleasurable.
It is a meditation on touch.
It may take you to an expanded state of consciousness.
It can be amazingly healing.
It is about heightened feeling and the awakening to new emotions, to being touched in places and ways you might not have before.
It opens doors to enlarging your self-perception.
It is erotic.
It’s a dream.
It is a space of creative play.
It is a ritual of conscious connection.

The deeper I go the more I see how the energy is in the center, in touching as an expression of love.
The deeper I go the more I see how touch-deprived so a lot of us are, and just how much recovery comes from being touched with love.
The deeper I go the more I see how disconnected we are, so many people, from ourselves, from our feelings, from our bodies, from feeling, and out of each other.
The deeper I go the more I see just how stressed so a lot of us are without realizing it because it’s become our default setting.
The deeper I go the more I see the power of relationship, with ourselves, through signature and the myriad gifts that attracts us.
The deeper I go the more I see how these encounters, these magical massages, and that phrase gets so limited occasionally, can enlarge us, free us, open us to life in so many ways.

And I love that after doing and teaching massage, bodywork and touch for more than 20 years there are constantly new dimensions and possibilities to explore and experience.

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