The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist

I’d love to share some of my trip with you, which attracted me to this stage as an erotic massage therapist and instructor.

I have been doing so for over 20 years and it is a journey of continuous learning, growth, expansion, exploration, understanding, and relationship.
It is about the body, it is about the mind, it is about the heart, it is about energy, it is about sexuality, it is about sensuality, it is about eroticism, it is about intimacy and much more.

Most of what I do and teach now I developed over time and exploration.
Some of it comes from learning about the body, energy, consciousness, and seeing how we could use these ideas in a sensuous and erotic way.

It’s also very much about the distance where eroticism, the center, and recovery intersect.
When our aim is to touch from the heart, to honor the human body and the being in their fullness, meaning each the body including the ability of sensual energy, that occurs.
Very often we use the energy of sexuality as a force of energy, of creativity, of release and recovery.

Pleasure is a pathway to those instead of always being the objective. Our bodies, and our genitals, and our sexuality are viewed as portals to something deeper.
That is not taking away from the pleasure, it is simply saying that there is more, much more.
And once we connect with this the massage experience becomes, transformational, even religious.

In this, it has been my intention for these experiences to be viewed as beautiful, empowering, opening rather than hidden or dirty.

I was fortunate to participate with an adult fantasy center.
This is a fascinating place to be in, and to have access to so many people to research, practice and learn was amazing.
I had been living in two worlds, learning about energy, recovery, spirituality, and gender.
On earth of, let us call it spirituality, which can be broad but matches a selection of practices, ideas, schools etc, many people separate sex from elsewhere. Spirituality occurs everywhere but the pelvis.
Even a great deal of touch and full-body massage leaves this difference in the center of our bodies.
For all those involved in Conscious Sexuality, Neo-Tantra, Taoist Practices etc, it is a natural connection.
For the majority of our planet, not.

So for me, being in such seemingly different worlds, and to realize that a good deal of people involved with novelty were not that interested in electricity and spirituality, was intriguing.

The excellent part was being able to perform literally thousands of messages, mostly with girls, and learn from that.

To share with all types of bodies, all sorts of responses and reactions.
To have the ability to research and find out about so many yoni’s, so many facets of sexual energy and how it moves and works within the body, gave me a field of possibility hardly any individuals get.

Over the years I’ll share a few of the experiences with you. Some are extremely sensual and arousing, some nearly surreal, some humorous, some odd, the range of being human.

I remember one Sunday morning sitting at a really traditional Jewish wedding, in a table with people I did not know. They all knew each other and were talking about what they’d done the evening before.
I sat thinking about what I’d say if anyone asked me.
At about 2 am I looked around the area I was in, in the club. There were people watching, some touching each other, even a few having silent sex, and not so silent, in a corner.
I was not asked about my night, which was a good deal easier.
But it was a distance I had been able to learn and experience so far in.

And from this, such possibility…

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This post previously published on Eros Life and is republished with the permission of the author.

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