Ferris Bueller Dating


Do you recall the film Ferris Bueller’s Day Off?

It was so great when Ferris went to Cameron’s home and simply said,”I believe now we are going to have a day off.” They stole Cameron’s dad’s car and spent the afternoon driving like maniacs through Chicago and having an unbelievable time.

Have you ever been on a Ferris Bueller date? Rather than planning your date so precisely — instead of saying,”well, we will need to meet for dinner at 8:00 and then have a drink at 9:30 and then later…” — no! Be spontaneous!

Have a Ferris Bueller date. Go out and have a purely spontaneous and enjoyable day. Start off with something like taking a drive to the country. Select a random exit to get off — any depart — and out of that depart locate the Main Street, locate a trendy restaurant to eat, and find some cool shops. Then get back in the car and on the interstate and get it done again! Choose another random exit.

If you are in a town, walk around town, and if your date says’left’ or’right’ go down another block. You’ll find various shops, cafes — whatever it may be.

If you live out in the country, you can do the exact same exact thing. Go for a drive, get off in a random exit and explore a new city.

The main thing is to get a Ferris Bueller date — where you just go and get lost with one another and have a fantastic time. Do this rather than getting everything so rigid and intended, and instead of being so uptight.

Rather than worrying about what to do and when to do it, why not just be spontaneous?

Can you ever go to rest stops and people see? You can imagine where all the folks are going to and coming from. I used to love doing this on a date. We would sit there and make these back-stories for these families and other travelers.

Another interesting thing to do would be to go and watch airplanes take off, and only guess where they’re heading. You will never really know — but who cares? That is what is fun. Or go to the airport and watch everyone stress outside for an hour and a half.

There are a number of fun things to do.

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–Consider this Zen-like principle: if you walk over to somebody and expect nothing, you are going to accept everything out of them. If you expect nothing from individuals, then you are going to accept every gift they give you — the gift of these, and the gift of sharing with you.Life is just a series of continual conversations. At any time you meet someone you connect with and find interesting, you need to keep that conversation together, right? You ask them out as a dialogue continuance:”oh my god, it was so good to speak to you about your dog and this excursion you just got back from. Hey, I want give you a call and find out more — give me your number.”It’s only a continual theme. That theme is linking — and you’re able to maintain that continual connection you have together in that moment of time.Many men will enter salesman-mode when they see a girl {} drawn to; they will only try to market themselves. “Buy me!” They continue to talk AT them instead of with them.But you know what a true connection feels like. If you are speaking to a woman and you are both with groups of people and her eyes can not stop looking at you — that is a connection. If she is directing all her energy, you know what that feels like.So if you are just going out there to practice listening and conversation skills, just speak to people all day long — that is important to do. But if you’re looking for a true connection, you need to weed through as fast as possible.These are the two measures: the first is to go out and speak with people and build your conversation skills, the next is to search for that connection.–This post was formerly published on www.davidwygant.com and is republished here with permission from the author. — ◊♦◊Have you read the first anthology which was the catalyst for Your Great Men Project? ◊♦◊If you think in the work we’re doing here at The Great Men Project and wish to join our calls on a regular basis, please join us as a Premium Member, now. All Premium Members get to See The Great Men Project with NO ADS.Need more info? A whole list of advantages is here.–Photo credit: Shutterstock

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–I spent a recent weekend with one of my customers and I had a terrific conversation that I wanted to share with you. David: I have seen this for so long — and each and every guy does this. They move from being anything they were when they started (possibly shy or introverted) to being way over the top.What they overlook along the way (in their journey to being way over the top) is to truly listen to another person when they’re having a conversation.You’ve got great discussions, but what I watched last night (when you approached that drunk girls — and that is all they were, only drunk, dumb women. The entire purpose of last night was NOT to strategy and merely to observe. I don’t understand, but they all turned me off! Every single one of these — their behavior, the way they walked, talked, the way they carried themselves. They had so much negative energy — I did not enjoy it at all.)However, you went up and you like declared yourself like boom! I’m here! The simple fact of the matter is that you’re far more Zen-like in your character than that! You need to really tone it down a little bit and simply observe more.You’ve proven to yourself that you can walk up to everyone — great. That is the first step that each and every guy has to do. Now, you will need to say to yourself, I will approach anyone, congratulations, I know I will do it. Congratulate yourself and give yourself a very big pat on the back — it is a big step.Now you will need to become very keen to everything that’s going on in your surroundings. The reason I didn’t really speak to anyone last night was that there was no one there that was interesting to speak to — not 1 woman. None.So now when we walk around, we are all going to work inside our own surroundings. It’s our environment that provides us the clues.Don’t be concerned about missing a girl. If you miss one, that is fine. You can not have all of them, because if you do, you enter pick up mentality and that is really not attractive.Do you recall Dragnet? It is like,”here we’re downtown in a city in the usa. Five men walking around picking up girls…”It actually looks like that! It doesn’t seem like five guys just having fun. It is all about having fun and having a fantastic time.You simply need to tone it down a little bit and go in there with what I call an action plan: what do you see?I see it quite fast — I see it like THAT. You guys might see it in a moment. You’ll miss a couple more chances but that is okay. Watch, take in the surroundings, look around and see what is happening around you. What do you see?There are several tourists out here now! This is much better than LA.. LA is an excellent place — but here it is mellower, more laid-back — you will find endless amounts of people down here now.July and August are tourist weeks. If you are going to come to Seattle, you are only likely to come in July and August. That is why this is fantastic place to do this as it’s a target-rich atmosphere.Client: There is the Danskin Triathlon tomorrow morning at 7:00 with 4,000 people!David: That is not fun at 7:00 am!Todays movie is a shocking one.Have you ever opened a girl using dead bunnies?–[embedded material ] [embedded material ]– This post was previously published on www.davidwygant.com and is republished here with permission from the author.– —What is your take? Comment below or write a reply and submit to us your {} or reaction here in the red box, below, which links to our admissions portal site. ◊♦◊Subscribe to our Writing Prompts email to receive writing inspiration in your inbox twice weekly. If you think in the work we’re doing here at The Great Men Project, please join us as a Premium Member, now. All Premium Members get to See The Great Men Project with NO ADS.A $50 annual membership provides you an all-access pass. You can be a part of each telephone, group, class, and community.A $25 yearly membership provides you access to a single class, one Social Interest group, and our online communities. A $12 annual membership provides you access to our Friday calls with the publisher, our online community. Register New Account Need more info? A whole list of advantages is here.◊♦◊Get the best stories from The Great Men Project delivered right to your inbox. Photo credit: Shutterstock

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Can She Be Attracted to Me?

Many men pay too much attention to body language — if she is holding her arms this way… Many men are searching for signals from her body language, but they are not leading with their own bodies.

You must lead with your own body. As an example, let’s say you are out on a date with a girl and you are talking. If you lean back in your seat, she is likely to lean back to hers — usually people mimic one another’s body languages.

So how do you know that she is not just mimicking you — how do you know if she’s actually interested?

You need to be the leader from the body language match. You need to be the man that gets her to do what you’re doing.

What I’ll occasionally do on a date is mix it up. I will lean back in my seat, and then when she says something especially interesting, I’ll lean forward. I will get her to accompany me. If she is interested in me, she will also lean forward.

One more thing which I’ll do is put my hands on the table as I am leaning forward. I will then watch to determine if she puts up her hands there too. Sometimes she will move her hands closer to my own hands so that literally the middle of the table is the dividing line between our nearly touching palms.

Why? It’s to do with this teasing aspect. Life is all about teasing.

So then I’ll lean back like this, and I will see where she is at. If she leans back too, then I understand that she is after my guide and mimicking me. I’m leading and she is following — that is what you want!

Perhaps five or six minutes later, I will do the same thing and lean ahead. This time I will put my hands over the dividing line and I will see how close she will move her hands.

She might put her hands over the dividing line also, on my side of the desk. It follows that we have broken each other’s personal space boundaries.

These are a few of the little clues which it is possible to read into as it comes down to body language. You need to play it a little bit.

Do you find the difference? It is all about playing; following and leading, leading and following.

We covered some ideas about the best way best to know if she’s attracted to you.

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Life is Negotiable


As those of you who’ve been reading the blog know, I have been searching for a new home recently. Whenever I walk into a brand new home, or if I am thinking of buying a new vehicle, or audio equipment, video equipment, whatever — I walk in and examine the salesperson as they are going to begin their spiel and say,”you can not shut me. I’m not somebody you can ever shut. So you do not have to give me the spiel; allow me figure this out for myself. You can hang out with me for just a little bit, and if I like you, I will probably give you some company.”

They are simply trying to sell themselves.

Life isn’t about selling yourself. This is not a negotiation. When you approach someone you’re attracted to, you shouldn’t go up to them and record the”ten reasons why you should date me”

What it’s all about is getting to know somebody. Folks want to work with people who intrigue them. They need to work with someone they could imagine being friends with, with someone which makes them feel comfortable.

So you don’t need to market yourself so much! I have seen it all — people are really going to go completely over the top when trying to market themselves. They are attempting to negotiate a date from someone as opposed to simply relaxing, having fun, enjoying life and being completely present.

Life isn’t about negotiations. Life isn’t about selling yourself. Life is all about presenting the best version of yourself based on who you are and your own confidence.

Whenever I run into somebody who’s attempting to market themselves to me, I will look at them and say,”let me ask you a question: why are you trying to market yourself so much? Allow me to get to enjoy you for who you are — the REAL you. I don’t have to understand only the good parts about you — let me get to know ALL the pieces of you! Then I will have the ability to make an educated choice when it comes down to whether or not I wish to hang out with you.”

You might encounter somebody like me somebody who can not be closed!

And do not ever try to shut me if you meet me. I have a great deal of friends and a terrific network of contacts, and not 1 person I know is somebody who tried to shut me. They simply got to know me.

Todays movie is a live strategy and breakdown at Bed Bath and Beyond.

You’re going to learn what outside is!!

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