Man Alive! –Last week’s episode was concentrated on female stimulation.  It is something men can overlook even though it’s a strong influence on whether a spouse is satisfied, in a relationship and in bed!As a heterosexual man, focusing on a woman’s arousal will make more pleasure for the two of you.  A woman who’s opened and attuned to by you’ll be happier, more loving and supportive.  AND let’s look at the opposite side of this equation — your pleasure!  As you’re part of the community I know you care deeply about girls. Your care is a excellent basis for a healthy and productive relationship.You simply need to look out for something I call gratifying, or giving, style  — putting all of your attention on trying to make a girl feel great and forgetting about your own enjoyment.More pleasure for you’ve got a couple of foundations…You need to know how your body functions and really be awake on your body so that you can FEEL pleasure. Along with feeling delight through giving, you also need to learn how to get (Many of my clients struggle with this!) And you must find clear about your desires AND inquire for them! She’s considered the”Dear Abby of Gender” and is a champion and advocate for all who need passionate relationships. She brings a mind filled with science and a heart filled with love for men. In our conversation we discussed: How men can tap into the natural healing ability of their own bodies Pumps and gadgets to keep your virility powerful Why it is important for guys to feel pleasure — both for oneself and in a connection Susan’s dedication to assisting couples revive passion, pleasure, and love Susan is a trusted hot sex adviser to countless and has sold a few hundred thousands copies of her 30 books. This is a must-listen for any guy who wishes to experience more pleasure!Even men on top of the game find themselves wanting more out of life. Man Alive is your source for men who want to have more meaning, a larger effect, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, strong friendships or a strong legacy.http://traffic.libsyn.com/manalive/susan-pleasure-for-men.mp3–A version of the post was initially posted on ShanaJamesCoaching.com and is republished here with permission from the author. Do you wish to be a part of creating a kinder, more inclusive society? Combine like-minded people in The Great Men Project Community. ◊♦◊Photo supplied by the author.

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I have had conversations with countless guys about their sexual lives, including topics like what seems scary to discuss, what they need more of, how it seems to ask for what they want…

Women’s arousal is a significant part of your sexual satisfaction and might be an even more powerful part of the equation than you understand.

I have a theory  that lots of men that aren’t fulfilled in their sexual lives aren’t stimulating girls in a way women desire.

Sometimes this comes from not recognizing the differences in how women’s bodies work. Sometimes there’s only too little know-how, which is embarrassing to admit.

On today’s Man Alive Podcast Pamela Madsen joined me to discuss how you can make more stimulation for girls and much more pleasure for you and your spouse. She has coached hundreds of girls in their personal journeys back in their bodies and expression of the femininity.

In this dialog we discussed:

  • The significance of inviting a lady into more states of arousal, so you have more fun
  • How to know whether a woman is enjoying your signature or desires something different
  • The activation procedure and why asking for what you need only once might not function
  • The secret to couples becoming over petty struggles and feeling more connected
  • A fun way to wake up a bored connection and reignite the spark

Even men on top of the game find themselves wanting more from life. Man Alive is your source for men who want to have more meaning, a larger effect, unshakable confidence, a hotter sex life, more money, deeper love, strong friendships or a strong legacy.

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The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist


I’d love to share some of my trip with you, which attracted me to this stage as an erotic massage therapist and instructor.

I have been doing so for over 20 years and it is a journey of continuous learning, growth, expansion, exploration, understanding, and relationship.
It is about the body, it is about the mind, it is about the heart, it is about energy, it is about sexuality, it is about sensuality, it is about eroticism, it is about intimacy and much more.

Most of what I do and teach now I developed over time and exploration.
Some of it comes from learning about the body, energy, consciousness, and seeing how we could use these ideas in a sensuous and erotic way.

It’s also very much about the distance where eroticism, the center, and recovery intersect.
When our aim is to touch from the heart, to honor the human body and the being in their fullness, meaning each the body including the ability of sensual energy, that occurs.
Very often we use the energy of sexuality as a force of energy, of creativity, of release and recovery.

Pleasure is a pathway to those instead of always being the objective. Our bodies, and our genitals, and our sexuality are viewed as portals to something deeper.
That is not taking away from the pleasure, it is simply saying that there is more, much more.
And once we connect with this the massage experience becomes, transformational, even religious.

In this, it has been my intention for these experiences to be viewed as beautiful, empowering, opening rather than hidden or dirty.

I was fortunate to participate with an adult fantasy center.
This is a fascinating place to be in, and to have access to so many people to research, practice and learn was amazing.
I had been living in two worlds, learning about energy, recovery, spirituality, and gender.
On earth of, let us call it spirituality, which can be broad but matches a selection of practices, ideas, schools etc, many people separate sex from elsewhere. Spirituality occurs everywhere but the pelvis.
Even a great deal of touch and full-body massage leaves this difference in the center of our bodies.
For all those involved in Conscious Sexuality, Neo-Tantra, Taoist Practices etc, it is a natural connection.
For the majority of our planet, not.

So for me, being in such seemingly different worlds, and to realize that a good deal of people involved with novelty were not that interested in electricity and spirituality, was intriguing.

The excellent part was being able to perform literally thousands of messages, mostly with girls, and learn from that.

To share with all types of bodies, all sorts of responses and reactions.
To have the ability to research and find out about so many yoni’s, so many facets of sexual energy and how it moves and works within the body, gave me a field of possibility hardly any individuals get.

Over the years I’ll share a few of the experiences with you. Some are extremely sensual and arousing, some nearly surreal, some humorous, some odd, the range of being human.

I remember one Sunday morning sitting at a really traditional Jewish wedding, in a table with people I did not know. They all knew each other and were talking about what they’d done the evening before.
I sat thinking about what I’d say if anyone asked me.
Since…
At about 2 am I looked around the area I was in, in the club. There were people watching, some touching each other, even a few having silent sex, and not so silent, in a corner.
I was not asked about my night, which was a good deal easier.
But it was a distance I had been able to learn and experience so far in.

And from this, such possibility…

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A Self-Pleasuring Sexual Energy Experience


This is a self-pleasuring experience which will make it possible for you to experience your sexual energy.

Once we can construct that energy, that amazing, strong, vital sexual energy once we can assemble it and keep it inside of us, there’s an intelligence within that can use that energy. It might take us into a meditative state, deep and calm. It could fill us with zingy aliveness.
It may take us on a journey of introspection and self-inquiry.
It might be that we become full of creative ideas and energy.
It might be led to a part of us that needs recovery.
It may connect us with a sense of closeness and love for ourselves, for lifetime.
It is a space of possibility if we but let it.

Create a ritual space, a sacred space, a sensuous space.
This may be anywhere.
Be hot, without that you can not relax and become within your body.
You might want candles, music, incense, crystals, shells, items which are important to you.
Contain a lubricant on your preparation.
Pillows, towels, blankets, whatever else you feel you may need.

Start with The Heart Breath.
Put one hand, both hands, in your Heart Centre.
Breathe.
A slow deep breath in, a slow deep breath outside.
Maintain this breath, deep and slow for at least 5 minutes.

Then put one hand on your Yoni or Lingam and keep the other in your Heart Centre.
Breathe.
As you breathe you will feel that the energy moving to your Sexual Centre, as you breathe it out moves into your Heart.
It might be the other way around.
You are linking these two centre, allowing the energy to flow between them.
Maintain this breath, deep and slow for at least 5 minutes.

With some lubricant start to touch your Yoni or Lingam.

Keep your breath deep and slow.
Touch gradually, touch gently.
Keep your body relaxed.

Energy moves in comfort.
Maintain your focus on your heart, with your breath.
If your mind wanders, as it will, return to your breath.
The breath permits you to remain within your body, on your feelings, at the sense, in the energy.

A potential movement for a guy is a couple of stakes up your Lingam, hand over hand, then a few strikes, down, hand over hand.
Breathe.

A potential motion for a woman is stroking between your inner and outer lips on one side, a stroke down the center of your Yoni, and between the lips on the other side.
Breathe.

Keep your signature slow and gentle.
Do not go harder, do not go faster.
Remain in the moment, in the softness, the slowness of your self.
Remain in the sensation.
Breathe, deep and slow.
Maintain your focus in your Heart.

Keep this touch, this breathe for around 10 minutes.
Then lie still.
And breathe.
Permit the energy to move on your body as it will, to take you where it will.

A gift of sensuality, a present of sensation, a gift of relationship, a present of sexual energy, a gift of existence.
It is acknowledging yourself.
It is honoring yourself.
It is making love with yourself.

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The Endless Worlds of Sensual Massage


Among the most gorgeous things about learning and experiencing Sensual Massage, Heart Touch, Sexual Energy Massage, Energy Healing Massage etc is the endless world of possibilities they provide.

A few years back I was in a sex expo giving talks, doing some massage demo and teaching workshops. I had had an idea for a little while about enlarging the possibilities of sensation, and so I called a friend who had been a Dom and had a conversation with him about what I thought we can do.

It is a bit experience that takes you deep into your body, into your energy, with a {} of sensations.
It is a place where feeling and emotion come together.
It is an exploration of the possibilities of feeling, from the subtle, oh so subtle, to a little firmer, to the sting of something which sends waves throughout your whole body.
It is deeply pleasurable.
It is a meditation on touch.
It may take you to an expanded state of consciousness.
It can be amazingly healing.
It is about heightened feeling and the awakening to new emotions, to being touched in places and ways you might not have before.
It opens doors to enlarging your self-perception.
It is erotic.
It’s a dream.
It is a space of creative play.
It is a ritual of conscious connection.

The deeper I go the more I see how the energy is in the center, in touching as an expression of love.
The deeper I go the more I see how touch-deprived so a lot of us are, and just how much recovery comes from being touched with love.
The deeper I go the more I see how disconnected we are, so many people, from ourselves, from our feelings, from our bodies, from feeling, and out of each other.
The deeper I go the more I see just how stressed so a lot of us are without realizing it because it’s become our default setting.
The deeper I go the more I see the power of relationship, with ourselves, through signature and the myriad gifts that attracts us.
The deeper I go the more I see how these encounters, these magical massages, and that phrase gets so limited occasionally, can enlarge us, free us, open us to life in so many ways.

And I love that after doing and teaching massage, bodywork and touch for more than 20 years there are constantly new dimensions and possibilities to explore and experience.

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