The Way to Get a’Proper’ Breakup


I get asked a lot about how to”correctly” break up with somebody. Breaking up is a really tough thing to do. I have written about this previously, but I keep getting this question. So perhaps I need to tackle this subject again.

You can do it like Sylvester Stallone and split up with someone via FedEx.

You may also can sit down someone, look them in the eyes and be 100% honest with about how you’re feeling. You may tell the person exactly how you feel about them that you love them as a person but you no longer romantically feeling them. You may let them know that you are great as friends but not good as fans.

Honesty is really, really tough for certain men and women. By being honest, however, you’re allowing someone to not live at any questions or doubt, and it enables them to proceed. It will of course hurt in that instant, but then that person can begin healing and proceed.

Too many of us don’t allow a person to heal. By being honest with somebody when breaking up, however, you’re allowing them to begin healing.

So share with me now some of the toughest times you’d breaking up with people. I’d really like to hear from you guys.

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Where’s the Compassion?


Someone recently said to me,”These specialists on training, finance and company are making money on things that nobody has to be taught. It is 100% instinct. The men and women who use their instincts don’t have any reason to want someone to teach them how to date. It is just plain common sense.”

That’s a wonderful quote. I will agree with it… 100%.

Forget about all of the experts — especially in finance and dating. I mean, come on.

Look how good Americans are in fund. Look at all the fantastic things they have done to themselves.

Look at the amount of those who have borrowed from their home believing that the real estate market was about to go up 100 percent each year. Look at all the men and women who kept their money in the stock exchange during the. Com heyday, believing their shares could go up 200% each year.

Yes, people do not need financial help in any respect. People — the vast majority of people — clearly require a whole lot of financial help. Something like 95 percent of individuals who win the lottery have been broke within six decades.

People today need financial help! A buddy of mine purchased a home in 2005. In Los Angeles, homes went up in value 132 percent in five decades. He thought that homes would continue to go up and up since there’s not any more land in Los Angeles. Now he has lost $300,000.

So according to this quote, people do not need financial assistance? It is”just plain common sense?” Really?

In terms of dating, sure I will agree that it also is”just plain common sense.” In this case I’m really not being sarcastic.

The thing is that people do not trust themselves when it comes to dating. They’re reluctant to approach. They are afraid to say what is on their mind.

When they are on a date, they are scared to challenge somebody since they’re searching for validation and acceptance. They need to be liked. They need to be loved.

Do not get me wrong. I adore people who figure out things by themselves. I love people that are financially secure or are good at dating all independently.

The issue is that a large part of those people today believe everybody else should be like them. It was so simple for them, and they have no empathy for others that are screwing up in these areas and are not mastering them independently.

Allow me to tell you, the 80/20 rule is accurate, and 80 percent of the world is screwing up. They do not get it. They do not understand. 80 percent of the world can not balance their own checkbook, make a budget or walk throughout the room to approach someone of the opposite sex.

When people say something similar to the quote I put at the start of the blog, I say to them,”You don’t have any compassion.” If you need assistance in 1 part of your life, you ought to go and get it!

If you need help with dating, you will find people like myself that can assist you.

Really, a lot of what I teach is to get people to trust their instincts. I teach people how to trust themselves, love themselves and how to become self-aware.

Shame on you to the man who gave me the quote that began this blog, for believing that nobody has to be taught these things. Shame on you.

There are several people out there who are lonely, angry, angry, and bankrupt. So many lonely folks who can not date, who can not make the ideal relationship decisions, but according to whoever gave me this quote they ought to just figure it out by themselves. It is all instincts and common sense.

The thing is that these people’s instincts and common sense have not gotten them anywhere. So why pass judgment about those folks, and about their decisions to seek help. Passing judgment on people is why we are in such a mess in this country.

I really like that I teach people how to date, the way to meet people and how to love themselves. I have compassion for it and I love it.

So come on people. Stop judging others that are having trouble with a portion of the life, and start supporting them.

I can imagine what happens when the girl who gave me the quotation at the start of the blog has a friend come to her for guidance. She probably only says to her friend,”Just use your common sense.” I can even imagine how badly and how embarrassing that friend must feel after hearing this.

This lady should say to a buddy like this is,”You know, I may have gotten this part of my life so, but I can totally understand where you’re at and how you’re feeling. Let us find you some help and the ideal people to speak to about this, so that you can make this part of your life”

Let us start supporting each other and stop judging each other.

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Internal monologue goes something like this:”Holy shit! What did I just say?! I did it again… My loved one triggered something within me and I lost my temper.”   Noooo dear lover — You did not LOSE it. You could not lose that f****r in a Where’s Waldo animation in the event that you tried.You tomahawked it in your loved one’s mind — HARD. You blew up like a bomb (again) and left shrieking shrapnel throughout the goddamn living area.  Bits of rectal blood, guts and gore stuck anywhere. You can not even see your loved one through all of the dripping, gnarly words. It was an articulated assault of viciousness. Extra strength Pine-Sol will not wash their pitted soul readily.Self-recrimination sets in:”I am such a loser. I am an unlovable wart on the ass of an ass. They’re for SURE gonna abandon me today… I just know it. I’d leave me if I could. Why can’t I ever learn?  I hate myself. I am the world’s worst spouse… no, the worst partner in the UNIVERSE! Yeah… I am a entire pile of doo-doo. I’m the sort of caca a coprophagic canine would not even consume on its wretchedly, ravenous moment.” Well dear lover, as soon as you’ve wallowed adequately enough to be covered head to toe in plenty of shame you have to work on it. You lean into the flywheel and begin that heavy shit moving.  (Hard work and the patience of a demi-god is necessary.) You receive therapized, examined, and read each self-help book as quickly as Amazon (with Prime free delivery of course) can get them into a searchable mailbox. You attempt woo-woo energy work, request advice from your hairstylist, gossip and shout with your BFF and pick up some interesting tools along the way your parents forgot to teach you.  (“Thanks mom and dad — way to go… I will send you the invoice in my $150/hr. You eventually track that shitty response to its source, back that small f****r to a corner pointing at it with a long, drawn-out “Youuuuuu…. !” Then stab your finger into its torso as you tell it to”GO AWAY! F**k off and die why not?! Why the hell can not I get over this shit once and for all?!!! GodDAMN IT! I am TIRED.” Alllll-riiiight dear lover… get back to work!  Whining is for toddlers and you wish to be the arbiter of your own fate dontcha? Lean back in the flywheel and twist that good, emotional disc until your back is aching, your tears have run dry and your palms and pits are moist with perspiration. Trust me lover, it is well worth the effort.You may never feel so free as when that wheel starts to spin by itself and you finally have REAL control over your lifetime.  You are gonna love it! Life will no longer happen TO you… you get to make whatever reality you desire. It F***’IN ROCKS!!*Shift to the present — your new reality* Guess what? That activate shit never goes off.  Enjoy never gets neat enough to place on a shelf, you do not suddenly turn into the connection guru dispensing penny advice to all and sundry AND your previous NEVER stops cooperating with your present. I thought it was gonna be simple after I leaned to that flywheel! Sometimes you’re the pigeon and sometimes you’re the statue. Regardless of what we do, when we’re triggered, our mind is so damn fast it’ll take us into the past at a split microsecond.  (Who knew we were such amazing time travellers!?) All we can do is select another response.We start by learning how to identify the start of a rapid heartbeat, nausea in our gut, or the choking feeling in our throat that suggests a cause is on its way up from the depths of our mind. Bodies never lie, dear lover… NEVER. This is our opportunity to choose an alternate reaction. It is a message from our future selves if we hear.Learn how to recognize those body signs and follow this up with two synchronized, learned activities. (Notice I said activity — not REaction.)To begin with, and honestly, most significant — ZIP IT.  Just shut the F**K upward for an instant .  Whatever verbal vitriol you have bubbling behind your uvula can wait till you have had an opportunity to analyze it and then, if you have to, consciously CHOOSE whether or not to unleash the unholy harangue from hell upon your loved one.Trust me fan, a few seconds will not make a little difference in the event you finally continue on your initial anger track.  It is going to do equal harm whether you choose to prematurely upchuck your previous onto your current or if you decide to wait and, after a cursory examination, opt for ultimate relational annihilation vis a vis your flapping jaws. The big difference is you’re taking responsibility with the next option.Let us assume for the moment that you (sensibly ) opt to have a breather and zip it. Second is to acknowledge your cause and then ask yourself this {} question as you’re looking into the eyes of the one you love:”Who would I wish to BE at the moment?”If your response is,”A crying, salivating orc in the pits of Mordor.” Or”An arrogant, self-important know-it-all who’s always perfect.” then by all means, let ‘er rip and consequences be damned — again.However, if you’re able to examine your loved one and decide that you need to BE somebody who calmly, compassionately, maturely expresses how you feel about the cause you just experienced in their unwitting hands, then you may opt to BE just that.It is a choice, people.   No, it will not be simple. Nothing worth having ever is. If you do your inner work, monitor your routines, stories, sorrows and pains back to their roots and wrap that child in a huge, heartfelt hug, participate in primal scream therapy or anything else it is that floats your metaphysical boat then you’ll have the beginnings of a custom of owning your shit and a opportunity to speak your truth like a rockstar.Notice I said”clinic”.  Nobody is born knowing this stuff and practice is the path to sustainable behaviour. More than anything precious lover, be kind to yourself as you begin down the street towards personal accountability.  Nobody ever develops without failure. Consider it, if you are in a heavenly state, why on earth would you change anything?! It’s our screw-ups that create the chance for change.So as you practice grabbing your body’s signs and your reactions, ensure that you allow yourself to chuckle at your own mistakes.After all, laughter IS the best medicine dear lover!–Previously Released on gracegetzen.comShutterstock

No, it will not be simple. Nothing worth having ever is.

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–Do you need success with online dating? Online dating can be fun and easy if you avoid these six errors that guys most often make when dating online. Here are the six biggest mistakes men make online when calling a girl for the very first time. 1. Not Reading A Woman’s Profile: of all of the mistakes men make, this is among the biggest. Guys won’t see a lady’s profile, then move to email her anyway — even if they aren’t in her age range and do not enjoy any of the exact things she likes. It’s wonderful how many guys will only look at a picture of a woman and send her an email, when that lady would be 100% not interested based on what she said she is searching for in her own profile. When you do so, you are just wasting somebody’s time.2. Being A Winker: in the event that you really read women’s profiles on the internet, you’d see that a good deal of women request not get winks or state flat out that they do not respond to winks. Since plenty of men online are extremely lazy, thoughthey will go online and send out a hundred winks at a night hoping that one girl will react. When you do so, do you understand what that tells a girl right from the get-go? It informs her first that you did not read her profile, and second that you are pretty desperate. They do not care who reacts; they just need someone to react.3. Sending A Generic or”Cut’N Paste” Emails: Sending a generic or”cut’n paste” email when you haven’t read a woman’s profile is one of the biggest turnoffs to women online. Men will send an email to a hundred girl saying something like,”Hey, you and I’m really a game. Read my profile and check it out, and let me know what you think. When a woman reads this, she knows you’ve put no effort whatsoever into it. She knows it’s a generic email, and she isn’t going to react to it.4. No Follow-Up: Lack of follow up is another massive mistake guys make online. A guy will send an email to a girl, she’ll send you back to himand then he’ll wait rather than respond to her email straight away. He does not follow up until three weeks later when he will email her and provide some sort of excuse about being really busy at work. Do you understand what a girl thinks when this occurs? She believes,”Well he clearly emailed ten individuals, and that I was number four on his record. You do not make her feel important that manner. If you email a girl, you ought to follow along with it — both in terms of returning her mails and asking her out on a date. Women want men that behave like men, have a plan and follow it.5. Commenting On Her Picture: Commenting on a lady’s image shows her that you did not read her profile. If you write,”Boy, you look really good in that dress” or”Wow, you look sexy in that bathing suit” it shows a girl that you’re solely a visual man. Doing it’s overly sexual right from the get-go. It turns girls off. Girls want you to not just read their profile, but to comment on something she states in it. It shows them that something in their profile joins with you in some way.6. Talking About Yourself On Your Email: speaking about yourself in your first email (and first contact) with a girl and before you ask her a question is a major mistake. What you’re doing when you do that is being a”lister” — what I call guys who need to list all their good qualities to market themselves into a woman. Online dating is a whole lot of fun, but you will need to look at it otherwise. You will need to appear at your first contact with a girl as though you were meeting her live and in person.When you look at it this way, you’d never send a girl a list of your great qualities or make a comment about how sexy she looks in her swimsuit on the very first conversation.Think this way, and you will have greater success online, not turn any girls off. ◊♦◊Have you read the first anthology which was the catalyst for Your Great Men Project? ◊♦◊If you think in the work we’re doing here at The Great Men Project and wish to join our calls on a regular basis, please join us as a Premium Member, now. All Premium Members get to See The Great Men Project with NO ADS. A whole list of advantages is here.–Photo credit: Istockphoto.com

Let us begin with not reading a woman’s profile.

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Secrets Women Keep from Men

Secrets Women Keep from Men

Secrets Women Keep from MenIn regards to girls there are a lot things that they won’t tell you. Women are that evasive and secretive thing that men spend their entire lives trying to work out as well as at the end of the journey are still as confused as they were when they began. Did you ever need to know what goes on behind those gorgeous eyes and understand about her hidden secrets? Well, here is your opportunity… just be ready for what you find out.

Her Very Best Friend Knows Every secrets

In regards to girls it is not a very well kept secret that they prefer to talk and discuss, but did you realize that your spouse tells her very best friend everything? In the satisfaction she gets out of the bedroom (or lack thereof) into the ways that you compare to her past partners, a woman’s best friend knows it all and plays quiet witness to your entire relationship.

In a connection the question of the number of sex partners you have both had is going to come up and in the dialogue she more than likely told you a fib when she gave her sex partner number. However innocent and honest she might have seemed, she is likely to maintain that real number a secret for not just her piece of mind, but yours too.

The simple facts about your abilities as a partner is they’re always going to be compared against that of her exes and it happens far more than you think. From simple things like how you show interest in what she has to convey to more complex things like whether or not you do this move with your tongue in addition to her college boyfriend, she is comparing it all. For the most part you win, but not necessarily…

She Knows About Your Porn and Thinks It Is Hilarious/Horrifying

When people lived together as a few invariably there is that moment when she finds out that hidden stash of pornography at the far back of the cupboard or those bookmarks in your computer to a porn website or 20. When she does, more than likely she is equally parts horrified and entertained by it, though she won’t ever tell you that she discovered them what she thought about it.

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1 Question Struggling Couples Never Ask Themselves

Several houses, a ship, a wholesome family. But in his union, that wasn’t the case. He was with his wife for 17 years. He struggled to speak to her. And he took it to heart.

“How is it I am so powerful at work, I am so in my zone, at my best? But at home, I feel like a fumbling idiot?”

Sandra had a similar issue. Except she had been on the other side of this work-home spectrum. A stay at home mother, she loved her home life. She was raising two children she felt deeply connected to. And then there was her union.

“I believe I am invisible to him.”

Jason. His main flaw in his wife’s eyes, she told himwas that he had been nearer to their children than to her. While he appreciated how hard she worked, and how she encouraged their loved ones, he felt like he could nothing right with her.

“At work, she is a powerhouse. At home, she has nothing left in the tank. She gets irritated when I ask her out on a date. We have not had sex in two decades.”

A lengthy period of unfreedom must proceed a period of liberty.

Nietzsche

Wow. Is not it true?

Unfreedom. Consider It. It is a powerful word. And it describes the condition many couples find themselves.

Why is it so damn common?
How can we lose one another from the day to day?
How can we lose ourselves?

I lived it for decades.
I understand it.

My mission in life is to change it. And still, the unfreedom is a gift. A gift to the emerging period of liberty. A present for the thickness of hunger it generates for liberty. The freedom to love openly, to connect openly, to see one another openly.

There is a way to get there. It is inside of a question that I asked Mike, Sandra, and Jason. It is a question struggling couples do not ask themselves. And it offers a road map to the relational freedom, connection, and love all couples hunt. And it is simply this…

How can you withhold from your spouse?

Consider it for a moment, in your present relationship, or by a prior one. Pause for a minute and ask yourself…

How do (or did) I never show up?
What do I not speak?
Where do I accept the status quo?
Where do I never ask for what I need, and instead merely complain?

This is the start. This is the beginning. From here, you’ve got the keys to the kingdom — to cultivate an energized and satisfying relationship. Now you need to ask yourself…

Do you need to measure in further?
Or simply hold the keys
?
What is the charge not to stepping in?

Pause. Answer these questions.

At the end of the day, when it is our turn to die, we ask ourselves…

Can I give my best to those I loved?

At death, we approach our anxieties. We’ve got nothing to lose. We visit scariest place within — itself, between me and me.

Summon that courage now as you’re alive. Own that distance between you and you. In my experience, that makes all of the difference.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do

with your one wild and precious life?

Where would you subtract from your spouse?

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Intrigue Her The Moment You Walk In A Room


Would you like to be that man who walks into a room and girls are immediately mesmerized by him? How does that occur? Well, it’s really quite straightforward!

First thing to do if you walk into a room would be to slow down. They somehow feel they should get there really fast.

What I always tell men to do is stop when they walk into a room. You frame whatever door there is, and when there is not a door then you make a door around you.

You scan the room — look left, centre, right, right, centre, left — so you are taking a look at the whole room. People are always looking toward the entranceway of a party or bar to see who’s walking in the area.

Not only do you do this, but if you walk in you {} sure to have really good posture. Ensure that your shoulders are back and your chest is puffed out. Be certain you’re standing up tall and straight.

Body language is quite important. So much of life is based on first impressions.

So as soon as you walk into a room and you control power (controlling power is standing upright and walking ), then you need to walk through that area gradually. You literally must strut through that area.

Walk through that area at a really slow tempo, smile at a girl that you see — make that first contact. Give her a look straight in her eyes, smile, and ask her”How are you doing tonight?” That’s it.

It is possible to walk away right after you do so, as it’s all about how you deliver that smile. If you deliver that smile very closely — with certainty and with great body language — then she is likely to wonder who you are and will be very intrigued by you.

Next, go straight to your buddies (or whomever else you’re meeting) and have good body language when you speak to them. You smiled at the girl and she smiled back at you, and you finally have acknowledgment from all the men and women that are around you.

When you go to speak to a buddy, you be certain you greet your buddy in the same powerful way.

So not only is body language significant, but the speed of your walk is just as important. When you walk into a room slowly, you are a commanding presence that individuals will notice. When you walk into a room fast, you are hustling in that room so quickly that you are basically only a blur.

You’ve got to be a commanding presence. You may have the body language right, but you have got to find the walk right too.

Another important point to remember is the perfect body language when you are speaking to a woman. When you’re talking to a lady, you will need to look straight at her. Your body has to frame her body. This means that if you are standing there in front of her, then you need to confront her directly so you are mirroring each other.

It’s all in how you look at someone. Once more, a strong, strong man looks into someone’s eyes and shows them that the guy is in that circumstance.

When you have any questions regarding body language, it is wise to visit YouTube and search for Bill Clinton videos. Bill Clinton has great body language when he speaks.

I know when I am speaking to a room of people, I am talking to left, centre, right. I am looking into people’s eyes to make them feel like I am connecting with them, and that’s exactly what people are searching for every time.

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–It is Sunday and it is family day for me… well it is family day with Sonja’s family now. I am meeting her loved ones today, and it is going to be a excellent test of recalling names for me. Wish me luck, since you know I am terrible with names! When you are dating someone, what are the bounds? Are there any definite relationship boundaries that, if triggered, cause irreparable harm and the eventual end of most relationships? What each of these behaviors have in common is that they’re violations of another individual’s trust. Once 1 person in a relationship no longer hopes their spouse, the connection will almost surely end. So to help you ensure this doesn’t occur in your relationship, here are 6 relationship-ending dating behaviours which should always be avoided: Remember that I am not mentioning the most obvious one which is cheating.1. Everyone Is Entitled To Their Own Privacy. What constitutes a breach of a person’s privacy? When, if ever, are you justified in breaking up your spouse’s privacy? In case you’ve got an”instinct” about something, does this give you the best to begin reading through your spouse’s email? To begin listening to their voicemail messages? The reply to all these is no! To violate a person’s privacy would be to violate their faith. You shouldn’t ever dig through someone’s personal emails, or listen to someone’s voicemail messages. By listening to your spouse’s voicemail messages or reading their emails, you’re violating not only their trust, but also the hope your spouse has with anybody who abandoned those encoded messages and emails.2. There is No Such Thing As”A Lie For The Greater Good.” Of course lying is not good in a relationship, although we have probably all been guilty of doing this. Certain sorts of lies, however, are a lot more detrimental to a relationship than others. Some people will lie to their spouse in certain scenarios in an attempt to avoid hurting them to avoid having to have a dialogue that will be hurtful to them. So although we lie thinking we’re doing this to”protect” our spouse, when that lie is exposed (which it almost always necessarily is) we end up digging a deeper hole for ourselves. If you do get caught in this circumstance, not only do you end up damaging your partner anyway, but you also wind up hurting yourself much more. In life, what you fear will actually manifest — but it is going to manifest even more badly than you feared. So whatever you’re trying to protect your spouse from by lying to them will look worse because your lie than it would have had been if you were honest and open about it in the get-go. In addition to that, you’ve violated your spouse’s trust by lying to them. These sort of lies are nearly always relationship-enders.3. You’re Not James Bond, Thus Never Spy On Your Partner You aren’t a spy, so you shouldn’t ever be spying on your spouse. You shouldn’t snoop on your spouse’s private things. That means that you need to never look through your spouse’s drawers, their wallet, their filing cabinet, or their personal records (such as their bank or credit card statements). Further, there’s nothing that justifies snooping. Regardless of what you have a”hunch” about, snooping through your spouse’s things is never the best way to affirm or deny your hunch. It’s a complete violation of your spouse’s trust. Your spouse’s private business and individual records should be kept confidential unless they give you permission to look at them. Spying on your spouse behind their back James Bond style is one of the most deliberate and obvious violations of your spouse’s trust, and will achieve nothing except to have your spouse never expect you to be alone near their items ever again.4. Whether this takes the kind of searching for your spouse’s car by driving by their home, gym or work, or it takes the kind of following your spouse in your car, this is something that you should never do. Even if you think you have a true”hunch” or”instinct” that your spouse is doing something wrong or is hiding something from you, designating yourself as your own private investigator isn’t merely the wrong way to tackle this, but also frankly smacks of stalker-like behaviour. If your spouse finds out you have been”tailing them” on your vehicle, they will no more trust you and will probably end your connection right there and then.5. Do not ever send a friend or anybody else to collect information for you about your spouse or to spy on your spouse for you. That means, do not send a friend to go hang out where you know or suspect your spouse will be. Do not have your friend try to eavesdrop on your spouse’s conversations in places they go. Do not ask your friends to use their mobile phone to snap covert images of your spouse. All {} not only violate your spouse’s trust, but also reveal your complete lack of confidence in your partner. This behavior, if detected by your spouse, will most certainly lead to them ending your relationship.6. Prevent Paranoid And Obsessive Behavior. Among the biggest ways to show that you don’t trust your spouse whatsoever, is to attest that distrust with paranoid and obsessive behaviour. While calling your spouse regularly is rather normal, calling them to”check them up” comes off as paranoid and obsessive, and will almost always drive your spouse away. If for example your spouse leaves their phone somewhere, and by the time they realize they abandon it and pick it up two hours after you’ve called them 50 times, you’re not just coming off as being paranoid and obsessive, but you’re clearly communicating to your spouse that you don’t trust them whatsoever. If you dread each time ten minutes go by with no reply from your spouse to a telephone call or an email, it sends the exact same message to them. This behavior won’t only push your partner away from you, but how you clearly do not trust them at all will likely lead your spouse to finish your relationship.Thus, even if you have some sort of”instinct” that your spouse is doing something wrong, it’s much better to face them openly about it and”slug it out” together compared to violate their privacy and their trust by trying to find answers behind their back. Even if your spouse does not respond to your efforts to discuss it the first, second or third time, it’s likely you will get to discuss it — and the consequence of facing your feelings openly along with your spouse will always be greater than if your spouse discovers you’ve participated in any of the behaviours I discuss here.Finding a fantastic person with whom you need to be in a relationship can be quite hard. After we find somebody, however, we will need to see our spouse’s privacy and trust are boundary lines that shouldn’t be breached. Violations of trust like those discussed here are a few of the quickest ways to kill any connection.However much emotion and love exist in a relationship, a connection can’t survive without trust. Think long and hard before you participate in any of these behaviours. Violating someone’s trust won’t ever have a connection to a better location. In actuality, by doing this you might just be orchestrating the end of what might have been a wonderful relationship. ◊♦◊Have you read the first anthology which was the catalyst for Your Great Men Project? ◊♦◊If you think in the work we’re doing here at The Great Men Project and wish to join our calls on a regular basis, please join us as a Premium Member, now. All Premium Members get to See The Great Men Project with NO ADS.Need more info? A whole list of advantages is here.–Photo credit: Istockphoto.com

What each of these behaviors have in common is {} violations of another individual’s trust.

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Ferris Bueller Dating


Do you recall the film Ferris Bueller’s Day Off?

It was so great when Ferris went to Cameron’s home and simply said,”I believe now we are going to have a day off.” They stole Cameron’s dad’s car and spent the afternoon driving like maniacs through Chicago and having an unbelievable time.

Have you ever been on a Ferris Bueller date? Rather than planning your date so precisely — instead of saying,”well, we will need to meet for dinner at 8:00 and then have a drink at 9:30 and then later…” — no! Be spontaneous!

Have a Ferris Bueller date. Go out and have a purely spontaneous and enjoyable day. Start off with something like taking a drive to the country. Select a random exit to get off — any depart — and out of that depart locate the Main Street, locate a trendy restaurant to eat, and find some cool shops. Then get back in the car and on the interstate and get it done again! Choose another random exit.

If you are in a town, walk around town, and if your date says’left’ or’right’ go down another block. You’ll find various shops, cafes — whatever it may be.

If you live out in the country, you can do the exact same exact thing. Go for a drive, get off in a random exit and explore a new city.

The main thing is to get a Ferris Bueller date — where you just go and get lost with one another and have a fantastic time. Do this rather than getting everything so rigid and intended, and instead of being so uptight.

Rather than worrying about what to do and when to do it, why not just be spontaneous?

Can you ever go to rest stops and people see? You can imagine where all the folks are going to and coming from. I used to love doing this on a date. We would sit there and make these back-stories for these families and other travelers.

Another interesting thing to do would be to go and watch airplanes take off, and only guess where they’re heading. You will never really know — but who cares? That is what is fun. Or go to the airport and watch everyone stress outside for an hour and a half.

There are a number of fun things to do.

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3 Ways Your Ego Will Organize Your Dating


Before I begin today’s blog, I wish to make certain to thank everybody for all of the remarkable blog comments and emails I received yesterday wishing me a happy birthday. I loved and appreciated all of them!

Let’s talk a bit about relationships today…

Anybody who has read me understands that there’s something that I say over and over again (since it’s so important!) : In order to really enjoy yourself and to truly have the ability to love someone else, you need to drop the ego. This is absolutely vital to finding an remarkable relationship, but it is equally essential to maintaining and continually enhancing a connection as soon as you’re already inside.

Nothing will kill a connection (even the best of relationships) more quickly than ego. Here are 6 ways your self can kill your connection, and how to avoid getting your ego destroy your relationship.

1. Resist the desire to Defend Yourself: Consider the amount of times you have fought with a significant other, and whenever things get a little heated you begin to defend yourself. All you hear is that you being attacked, and you instantly enter”defending yourself” mode. Are you aware that if you defend yourself in a fight, what is really happening is your self is defending itself.

Additionally, it means that you have stopped listening to another person. If someone tells you they don’t like how you’ve been behaving lately, why don’t you hear them out rather than defending yourself? It will almost always produce a far better outcome.

2. To Love Yourself And Someone Else Entirely You Must Separate The Ego: To be able to genuinely love somebody, you need to separate your self from yourself. This is also true if you are interested in being able to completely love yourself. Now, I understand in a perfect world, we would never be ego-driven. We’re all ego-driven to some extent or another, so let us acknowledge it and embrace that we will need to separate the self to nurture and maintain a really amazing relationship with somebody.

3. Your Ego Can Ruin Any conversation: The reality is that however much you prepare, plan and hope for a fantastic conversation with your significant other, your self is the 1 thing that will always ruin any conversation you are going to have if you allow it.

Let us say your significant other is frustrated with you in 1 way or another and actually needs to express something about that to you. How do you react?

So as to actually listen to somebody, it is uncomfortable. Occasionally your significant other has things which are really bothering them about which they would like to speak with you, but which you’d rather not hear. To keep a terrific relationship, however, you can not let your self keep you from listening.

This is a topic which we’ll go deeper into another day.

So next time you see that your self getting involved in your relationship, remove it! If you end up protecting yourself or not allowing you to truly listen, then you want to take a step back. Listen carefully to what is being said, and use it to make the most remarkable relationship.

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