Hacks for Feeling Better About Relationship

Transparency, trust, vulnerability, uncomfortable and scary are merely a few of the things which make love (and lifestyle ) grand! 

If you would like a better attitude and a greater degree of satisfaction pick it! 

Talk to yourself!  Stop the negative self talk like”I am not good enough,” I am too old/ obese /  busy/ etc.”Rather make it a habit to search for the good rather than the bad in yourself, in others and in every circumstance!

Ask yourself, what’s the worst thing that could happen? By imagining negative and unlikely outcomes, you understand you will be fine and can handle a great deal more than you understand. You may even crack up yourself by imagining ridiculously funny and improbable outcomes.

Recognize and celebrate your little wins! 

When coping with unpleasant tasks, start looking for the things which are beneficial and concentrate on that.

Keep talking to yourself… my favorite questions to ask myself are “why not?” ; “is this worth it?” ; and my favorite which is the question which helped me find the love I have now is,”if you do not do so, will you regret it?”

Tell people exactly what you want. People today want to give you exactly what you want, but they’re not mind readers.

You do not know anybody else’s story.

  • Another person is not perfect, and neither are you.
  • Transparency, trust, vulnerability, uncomfortable and frightening are merely a few of the things which make love (and lifestyle ) grand! 
  • Should you slip into old patterns, grab yourself with no judgement, and make better decisions. 
  • Everyone just wants to be heard and seen. 

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There, I Said It!

“There, I said it”, he texted me after he asked me what I was doing on Friday night.  Then four months after I stated “I love you” to my Clark Kent (CK). 

For the first time in my life, I said those 3 words first. My whole life, I was too scared to utter the words –  to put myself out there was so frightening – I stressed what the response may be. In some previous relationships, I said”I love you too” when I did not really feel love in any way. In those situations, I liked the individual and did not want to hurt their feelings. This time, I did not say it anticipating a reply, I said it because I knew it to be true for me. Like a gift, it made me happy to give him these three words.  

All of a sudden, I felt nervous and inexperienced. I could immediately tell he had no motions, he was not playing games, which meant I did not know what my next move ought to be. His vulnerability and transparency left me weak in the knees. Thank God, I listened to my gut and did not run away. 

This is a brand new connection, I understand… the honeymoon period. I don’t have any idea whether it’s for a reason, a season or a lifetime, but I know it’s changing me in profound ways. 

You see from day one, we’ve been honest about everything! We discuss our anxieties and worries as easily as our achievements and hopes. We share our faith in God, in humanity and in positivity. We invite another to pursue interests, remain on task, and we relate and accept each other’s tendency to procrastinate occasionally and also to hit the snooze button. We give each other the benefit of the doubt and assume the very best in each other. We endeavor to be the best version of ourselves for each other. 

The cool thing about our beginning is that I must see the psychological man from the beginning. He showed up that way and he gave me the confidence I had to show up that way also. CK listens to me, makes me laugh everyday, offers to help but not insists, gives me distance, is my biggest fan, supports me emotionally (like nobody ever has before). 

In 52, being emotionally supported is currently on top of my requirements. In case you’re curious, he did not say those three words back. Not that day or for days later. 

 

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The Three A’s of a Successful Relationship: Affection, Care and Affirmation

Today is October 4th, and the Feast of St Francis of Assisi.

Let us look at a segment from the famous, Prayer of  St. Francis:

Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console; to be understood, as to understand; to be loved, as to love.

Consider adopting and practicing the belief that “it is in giving that we receive” on your relationship and you’ll probably experience the magic that’s love. 

Console method to comfort someone in a time of disappointment or despair. 

Try approaching your partner with the closeness, listening and availability which allows them to feel secure, heard and seen.  

Let them know they can depend on you. Tell them, “I got you”. 

Understand method to get an intended meaning. 

Try approaching your partner with fascination, nonjudgment and open-ended questions. Ask them,”why is this important for you?” and listen. If you don’t know keep asking questions. 

Enjoy means to have a fantastic interest in or powerful feeling for someone. 

Try showing love by loving your partner they way they prefer to be adored.

I feel loved when I get the three A’s- affection, affirmation and attention. 

St. Francis of Assisi loved people and animals. He asks us to care for and treat all living things with respect and love. 

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Superman or Clark Kent: Superman Never Let Me Drive

After some practice, driving is just one of those things you may appear to do without thinking. Like dating the same kind of man over and over again , you frequently go on auto-pilot.  

Sure, Superman’s attributes vary- different colours and models,  some are lavish, others are rugged, but for the most part they have the basic package, same frills and functionality that grabs your eye. As soon as you get accustomed to the features of your {} ,  you drive as you usually do. 

Then one day, you meet another sort of man, the Clark Kent kind and you must learn how to drive on the incorrect side of the street. The big distinction is not the street, it seems exactly the same, the difference is within the man. The pedals and buttons are in various places, you press something expecting to get a response and nothing happens or worse, you inadvertently cause a malfunction. It can feel like daily every day. 

Learning how to drive this new man can be scary and requires concentration. You may veer off the street and get scared, you may wonder if you should return to another more comfortable side (Superman remains texting you, if you text him back?) .  

Like driving on the other side of the street you will need to use caution, take your time, and accept that you will make errors. Clark Kent is a challenge worth researching. Learn how to maneuver a new sort of person and you’ll see and learn a lot. Like driving through the uk, New Zealand or Australia for the first time, you start to see and feel things you have never experienced before. Despite the fact that you’re driving on the other hand, you keep on going because the new scenery and atmosphere is remarkable. 

I met with a Clark Kent a couple of months back and I am learning to drive on the other side. I’m studying some subtle and not so subtle nuances daily. Like communication, it is important to him (historically I’ve always needed more regular check-ins compared to supermen I dated). If I don’t text my Clark Kent in our typical check-in times, he worries.

I realize I do not have to drive daily. Some days he drives and I’m his co-pilot, a few days we {} from the backseat and we receive a driver. We take turns driving this crazy thing we call life.

Superman never allow me to drive.  

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Superman or Clark Kent?

My dating trip began in earnest in 1982, I was 16, a junior in high school and I fell in love with a sincere, thoughtful and loving Clark Kent-type. Initially, I had been infatuated with the tall, handsome and athletic new man, he seemed like Superman. I quickly discovered that he was shy, introverted, artistic and intelligent. I recall feeling relaxed, happy and appealing in his or her company. We spent every waking moment we could together, sharing and encouraging each other’s interests, families and friends. After 3 decades, while attending college several states away from one another, we tearfully broke up. We could not handle the distance.

At the moment, I was 19, a sophomore in college and I went in search of a new boyfriend. Again and again, I fell in lust and became obsessed with men who looked like my initial boyfriend-tall, athletic, confident, leaders. But they lacked the yummy interior qualities which turn infatuation into love. I had no idea that I should be focusing on interior values and qualities as opposed to the muscles, height and swagger.

For many years I dated and broke up with Superman upon Superman, I even married one. My ex-husband and lots of these men I dated are smart, funny and honorable great men.

Their cocky, fast-talking manners presented a challenge to me. I responded with my type A personality and my subliminal message to them was”you feel you are all that, well you have met your match”.

Looking back, I sparred more than that I loved. I used my quick wit and sexuality as my money and convinced Superman and myself that I was separate and that I did not need anything.

When you tell somebody you do not need anything, you get nothing! 

I’ve discovered that asking for what you need in a relationship is love.

You know the man, he’s shy, quiet (yeah sometimes he wears glasses), he might appear a bit awkward at first, seem a bit closer… Give him a chance, he’s superpowers too.

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Galia Pennekamp sees herself on a shared journey helping singles get back into the match, the old fashioned way, in person! After reentering the dating kingdom ten decades back, she can maintain a deep firsthand knowledge of the good, the bad, and the ugly of relationship now. She based SOMETHING IN COMMON, a theory focused on empowerment, changing habits, and above all, building relations with the appropriate individuals. Through a series of one-on-one and team training and organized private occasions, she prepares individuals for the dating scene, and attracts the dating scene direct to you in a manner that’s safe, approachable, and finally helps individuals find their own happiness. Whether you’re interested in one-on-one training, or only want to meet people, SOMETHING IN COMMON is for you.

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