Women ask Gregg all of the time, “Why Can’t I Find Love?” Most of us want to love and be loved. It is amazing to feel a true, lasting relationship with another person — to be fortunate enough to discover that someone who makes our hearts race, somebody we could actually settle down for the long haul.
However, the path to love could be bumpy, with some serious twists and turns. If we are not careful, we could get rid of control or worse, hit a roadblock that completely stops a connection in its tracks. Best advice? Avoid these 4 roadblocks that are keeping you out of love.
#1 Beware of the Superficial
It’s easy to get lost in a shallow checklist of qualities you seek in a partner. But bear in mind, you aren’t purchasing a car! A sexy body and shiny good looks only take you so far. If you can not find love, then quit stressing about things that don’t really matter. Up to now, you’ve only dated blonds (since you’ve got thing for Brad Pitt), or men taller than you in heels. Just how far has that gotten you?
Physical attraction is important, but did you ever notice how a man gets more (or less) attractive the longer you get to know him? That hunky man who treats you badly can quickly fall to a zero, while the sweet guy who makes you laugh may unexpectedly rev your motor.
Do not get stuck on a checklist. Rather, open yourself up to new possibilities and see where it takes you. Have you dated an older guy? Tried dating a younger man? How about a man that loves motorcycles? The happiest relationships share basic values, compatible interests, and travel deeper than what is on the surface.
#2 Do Not Let Anxiety Hold You Back
Dating is full of doubt, and it can be intimidating. Instinctively, you might feel a little bit of anxiety about the entire thing, and begin to prevent dating altogether. Or if you’re putting yourself out there, you might opt to floor it in reverse once things get going.
Rather than stressing and focusing on the negative, envision the best-case scenario. Picture the two of you reaching that destination together. Let yourself feel happy. Do not let worry halt your odds of finding love.
#3 Ditch The Baggage and Travel Light
In To Date A ManYou Must Know A Man, dating trainer Gregg Michaelsen teaches us about luggage handling. And as usual, it is is a terrific bit of connection and dating information ! The message is simple, and as plain to see as a flashing road sign. Do not let your bags slow you down.
Bear in mind, guys have bags too, and they find it refreshing when we’re fair and unload it right from the beginning. Provided that you keep it positive and light, you must have nothing but green lights ahead. He will, then, feel comfortable enough to let you in on his luggage also. Get it out there and leave it all behind. That’s the ideal way to start your trip together — traveling light!
A lot people get scared when we get too near. That old luggage resurfaces again, and we start making comparisons. We do not want to get hurt again. We become uncertain, or we become afraid to make a commitment. We put up walls and distance ourselves out of love, which makes it almost impossible to move forward.
Don’t get stuck on your head. You may think that you are protecting yourself from a significant disaster, but in fact, you’re merely preventing yourself from reaching the location where you really need to be. If you are not open to love, then you’ll never get there. Stay on track, move past the fear, and make a decision to keep your heart open.
There’s a good deal of dating tips for girls out there. Because love may be a tricky road full of obstacles. But the simple fact is, we might just be responsible for a number of those roadblocks. Like a fantastic Driver’s Ed refresher course, sometimes we need a little reminder to prevent the things which get in the way of our happiness.
The finish line is in sight — so avoid those roadblocks, and enjoy the ride!
This post was previously printed Who Holds The Cards Now?
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Beware the shallow.