60? 70? And Beyond?

It’s a sign of the times that divorce is still at the greatest rates ever. Some perceive this as a bad thing, since the conclusion of a long-term relationship can leave someone feeling frustrated and alone. However, like every life challenge that spans each path, the end of one love may cause the start of a much fuller and more fulfilling relationship.

It all depends on how you see love

People over fifty have found that the days are over when lust at first site was utilized to ascertain the right partner. Lust alone doesn’t last. When the love bliss bubble burst, you’re left with the nature of the individual lying next to you. You may have missed this while you’re busily trying to get them. This is when you might discover you do not like that person very much.

Although some people at this age haven’t tried another system to try to find a new partner because we’ve been in a long-term relationship, we’re instinctively aware this alone does not cut it anymore.

I’m not saying that sexual attraction isn’t essential as you get older, it certainly still important to me, but our definition of love varies. This isn’t because we’ve become overly stubborn and set in our ways; it’s that we’ve become less tolerant of what we’re certain another cannot change. Very good sex alone is not sufficient to put lipstick on that pig and make it tolerable.

There is another variable, this has to do with the truth that we learn to love ourselves better as we age. We know a relationship won’t work unless two spouses can enthusiastically and respectfully support each other in their own development without limitation. This is a significant change from where many people began when we discovered our first romantic partners.

The make-up of a venture has shifted

It isn’t only our definition of love which has changed, the formulation for intimate unions has also changed. A huge proportion of people over fifty do not find the need to get married as part of a committed relationship. By way of example, many couples do not find a need to reside together in the exact same home, town, state or even country. There’s absolutely no formula, both people involved will need to find out the best way for them, and that’s fine.

Bottom line is this, if you’re still searching for that sexy woman/man to satisfy your sexual dreams and fill your life with love for perpetuity, then I believe the answer is no, you won’t find true love after fifty. If you’re still relying on sex appeal as your principal feature, then you’re most likely not going to draw the sort of partner that may result in a fulfilling relationship.

But if you are able to be open-minded, optimistic, flexible and accept new dimensions of love that go beyond the physical, you might discover a love that goes beyond sex and love and can help you form a union with another’s body, soul and mind. If that is you, then the solution is yes. There’ll be a few trials, and you’ll need to be patient, however you’ll find the best love of your life with a spouse who completely cherishes you and you them.

Remember, paying gratitude for life ahead will fill joy with joy and calmness.

Formerly published here and reprinted with the author’s permission.

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