Spontaneity is a fantastic thing in a relationship — a very good thing. Doing the same thing and acting exactly the same way day in and day out is how relationships get rancid and dull . However, it is not a great basis for a new or expanding relationship.
Suggestions to create an Awesome relationship
Always wondering what is going to happen or how you might behave can make a prospective partner nervous and uncomfortable about being emotionally vulnerable.
Even if you’re not interested in forming a severe, long-term relationship with someone you’re dating, opting to fly by the seat of your pants may bring plenty of stress to situations which don’t want it.
Make programs, it is ok
Creating a plan for a date does not mean you must schedule every minute of your time together. Only that you have given another person the respect to wish to spend some time talking and learning about one another, or participated in an activity — not wondering what to do, where to go, and perhaps even arguing about it.
When you ask someone out, accept that you have asked that individual to give up free time. So make it worthwhile. Learn what the other person likes. How? Ask! Do you enjoy salsa dancing? How do you feel about Thai food? Have you ever been to this new bowling alley club yet? All of these are perfectly fine questions to ask of a person who has agreed to go out with you.
You can even present options according to your preferences. “I was thinking of grabbing that new Johnny Depp movie. Are you interested in doing this?” Still stuck? Monday nights are amazing for casual beverages or a book-reading. Tuesdays and Wednesdays are typical nighttime where concerts are in the town or favorite live regional bands will perform a nearby venue.
Thursdays are excellent dinner and a movie nights if you would like to beat the Friday crowd and do not mind staying up to catch the midnight premiere of forthcoming films. Weekends — sure you can hit the club scene… but remember how many excellent things there are to do during the day.